Posted by anna on January 7, 2000, at 16:14:52
In reply to To: Anna, posted by Renee N on January 7, 2000, at 0:28:42
> > > > > > I am having, perhaps have always had, difficulty with transitions of any kind. At the moment it is leaving work to go home. I am glad I can leave work, but perhaps not so looking forward to home which isn't feeling like home cuz of how filthy it is. I told myself I would do my 12 minute cleanup maximum, per Janice's model, but I don't even feel like going there.
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> > > > > > I have difficulty with other transitions as well. Anyone else have this problem?
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> > > > > I have add too, and yes, transitions are a problem--change is a problem, even small ones. I don't know why. Adderall helps, but not everything.
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> > > > > what is the 12 minute cleanup? --anna
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> > > > Man, I love you guys! It feels so good to "go" somewhere and feel like people really truly understand, can relate to, and care about your eachother and and our problems.
> > > > People who don't have ADD or don't believe or understand the type without hyperactivity always think we are exaggerating our struggles. I wish they could follow me around for 24 hours and THEN give me their opinion. Yes, we all do stupid things, but not constantly like us. This week I locked myself out of my car at work one day and left my lunch in the car the next. I left icecream sitting on the freezer, forgot where I left my glasses, forgot to bring my ADDerall to work, can't remember if I took a pill 5 minutes ago, asked my kids,
> > > > "who ate all the eggs?" when they were sitting on the counter where I had placed them less than 3 minutes earlier...need i go on? Sound familiar? I do believe that those of us with a leaning toward depression dwell on these problems lmore than a more secure, cheerful, self confident person might in the same situation.
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> > > Hi, it's me again. I just remembered that I also wanted to respond to the question about transition problems and ADD. Transitions require thinking about details and planning. Do you have everything you need? What time should you leave? Did I turn off the coffee? And on and on.
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> > Hey renee--I forget everything too!!! I even sent up a poost last month because I thought my memory was going. We do the same stuff. another thing I do--I made up my own planner--it's not pretty like the nice leather ones (I use a 3 ring notebook) but it is big and I took the best from all the systems and made it to suit me. It helsps.
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> Anna, look around, we have answered eachother elsewhere about similar topics. We must be kindred spirits. Since I have many aquaintances, but no one around to pal around with, it's good to find someone like you. Too bad you're nodt my next-door neighbor! :)
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> P.S. Both times I wrote posts to you I messed up by writing the subject in the name box and had to go back and fix it. I find myself wasting so much time fixing things because of my lack of attention to details and/or forgetting of all sorts. Yesterday I forgot to dial *9 before calling outside the office, forgot to put 1 before the area code, and a few other blunders before I finally got a call to go through . I ended up with a telephone tag message, ironicly to my son's doctor about his ADD!Renee
Heck, we'd be laughing so hard at all the stupid things we do we'd forget to go to work, clean--(uh, all the stuff we screw up now, anyway). I am so glad too, however, that there are people who do the dumb things I do....my friends are very put togehter, or at least don't run the washing machine without clothes, or have flooded their , bathrooms, etc regulary because they leave water running. You know, I do the same stuff with the phone, espeically given all the codes and things these days. I hardly ever get a call out on the first try. But, it's one thing I never think aboutAt did call a couple of cleaning services today to get estimates. I figure if I book someone next week, I will be forced to pick up this weekend. Yes!
I admire anyone with add and kids--how do you do it? If I had a family, DFS would likely take the kids away--I'd forget to feed them, or take them for their shots or whatever. (oh, I guess they are not puppies.)
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