Posted by noa on December 27, 2003, at 10:46:30
In reply to Thank you (Rant Enclosed) » shar, posted by Racer on December 27, 2003, at 0:42:23
Remember the Appollo space mission days--when they would put the astronauts into isolation for a few days after they landed, in case they had picked up some evil microbe or toxin on the moon?
Well, it's kind of like that with visiting toxic relatives. You need to detox. I hope the ranting is helping with the detox process.
You are right about the training. It is second nature for everyone to go into their roles. Think about it--this training started very early and was practiced all the time. And the wounds that make you vulnerable go very deep and old, and I think when they get poked, it is hard to summon up your grown-up armour to protect yourself.
You were great, though! It may have felt lousy, like they were still cutting right to the core of your tender spots, but you showed courage and gumption and did say some things to stand up for yourself.
I agree that things in your marriage should not be up for group discussion at family events.
Rant away, Racer! And spend the next few days doing things to further detox.
BTW--I am so incredibly impressed with all the stuff you got done despite the toxic visit! If you run out of cleaning, can you come over and help me with mine? : )
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