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Posted by teek30 on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:15
I am new to these boards here so you all dont know me but if I could please express myself. I am a married 29 year old male (no kids yet) who has been dealing with anxiety and depression since I was about 19 or 20. Like the rest of you I didnt realize it until more recently, but had been dealing with it for a long time. I spent some time on Paxil CR 37.5 mgs a year or two ago. Worked wonders but the side effects got to me. I dont recall Lexapro helping a whole lot and Zoloft has its pluses/minuses too. Long story short I called and will see my pdoc again next week.
This past weekend I attended a party where I knew I would see people I have not seen in a long time. I drink in order to overcome the social anxiety I have developed. I ended up finishing the night off not remembering where I was and very very drunk and sick. My wonderful wife had to drive me home and take care of me. That was Saturday night. I spent all of Sunday depressed, embarrassed (I am too damn old for this), and my wife said that late into that evening I mentioned how I hated the world and want to kill myself. I dont remember saying that but needless to say I think I hit rock bottom. If you ever knew me you would not believe my story-I hide things very well.
Thanks for reading this. Just wanted someone to say "hi" to in this weird state of life many of us here somehow have found ourselves.
Good job, loving wife, great parents, great childhood, etc etc etc.-yet lots of unhappiness and troubled by anxiety.
Posted by Sonya on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by teek30 on August 1, 2005, at 20:32:08
> Good job, loving wife, great parents, great childhood, etc etc etc.-yet lots of unhappiness and troubled by anxiety.
Oh, how I relate! I have no good reasons for feeling the way I do, and yet it makes no difference....I'm anxious and depressed. I'm finding lately, though, that I can *get by* if I keep life as simple as possible.
I hope things improve for you.
Posted by teek30 on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to Re: no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by Sonya on August 2, 2005, at 8:14:36
Thanks for the reply. Can I ask you what you do to make life "more simple"? Just curious.
Thanks
Posted by Sonya on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to Re: no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by teek30 on August 2, 2005, at 10:22:53
I was afraid you'd ask that (no, it's okay):-)
For me, it's all about structure/routine. I find much deviation is unsettling. So, it's work (& work is not too stressful), exercise (very important for me), reading and sleeping. I keep socializing to the weekends because that disrupts my routine. When I absolutely must grocery shop, I do it at a small neighborhood market (because crowds overwhelm me). I used to cook but no longer (making decisions about what to buy and what to prepare makes me nuts).
It's simple albeit dysfunctional, but it works for me.
Do you exercise? It really helps with anxiety and depression. I have a sturdy treadmill which I walk fast on 1 hour, 5 days/week while I'm watching tv.
Posted by john berk on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by teek30 on August 1, 2005, at 20:32:08
Hi Teek!! i hope you are feeling better today!!
i have been sober 6 month's, and although i don't remember, my brother told me the last time i drank, that by the end of the night i was saying what a drag life is, and that i wanted to die!! he was quite worried, and wanted to take me to the crisis center here in philly, luckily i slept it off, but i was depressed and embarrased for 3 days!! i, like you, have been depressed for quite some time, [i also have ocd] and i think when we are drinking heavily, all the negativity comes out, and we say extreme things we don't really mean, but in a sense it sums up our frustration with our lives!! i am not suicidal, but i have said those very words, like you, on more than one occasion. i just think alcohol magnifies everything at times!! i truly hope you have a good session with your dr., and that you find something that helps you with your depression. i'm like you also, everyone i know thinks i am happy go-lucky, but i have alot of inner turmoil!! good luck...john
Posted by teek30 on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to Re: no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by Sonya on August 2, 2005, at 12:45:53
thanks so much for the response. Yes I do exercise, and it does help. I am very structured as well, and going off my routine makes me not too happy. This is bad because I tend not to do things outside of my routine thus giving up on some friendships, etc. Do you have that problem too?
Posted by teek30 on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to Re: no meds-alcohol-feel horrible » teek30, posted by john berk on August 2, 2005, at 13:05:30
Thank you to you as well. Yes you pretty much summed it up. When your depressed too drinking is probably one of the worst things you can do, especially when you go into the evening already very troubled with something
Posted by Sonya on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to Re: no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by teek30 on August 2, 2005, at 14:33:11
> thanks so much for the response. Yes I do exercise, and it does help. I am very structured as well, and going off my routine makes me not too happy. This is bad because I tend not to do things outside of my routine thus giving up on some friendships, etc. Do you have that problem too?
Absolutely! It has put a damper on my friendships, and my life often is extremely boring. But boring is better for me than too stimulating. It's sad and frustrating, I know. I was never like this before severe depression hit in 1998. I'm a different person now.
Do you feel guilty (as I do) because you may be restricting your spouse's life?
Posted by teek30 on August 3, 2005, at 3:18:16
In reply to Re: no meds-alcohol-feel horrible, posted by Sonya on August 2, 2005, at 14:50:02
Yes I do, I dont want her to have to put up with this stuff be need her to...
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