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Posted by Lamdage22 on June 11, 2018, at 12:32:47
So my parents neglected me through all of my childhood. They are now 70 (Mom) and 80 (dad). They say they cannot replace my companions. I have three friends. One is my roommate, the other one is a friend from highschool and that highschoolfriends mom.
Then i have a social worker but i can only call him Monday-Friday until 6 pm. Psychologist and Psychiatrist.
I am at a daytime clinic and i dread having to talk infront of others at the end of each day. Everyone has to say stuff and they are like 20 people.
Posted by SLS on June 12, 2018, at 19:16:52
In reply to who can i turn to for comfort?, posted by Lamdage22 on June 11, 2018, at 12:32:47
> So my parents neglected me through all of my childhood. They are now 70 (Mom) and 80 (dad). They say they cannot replace my companions. I have three friends. One is my roommate, the other one is a friend from highschool and that highschoolfriends mom.
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> Then i have a social worker but i can only call him Monday-Friday until 6 pm. Psychologist and Psychiatrist.
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> I am at a daytime clinic and i dread having to talk infront of others at the end of each day. Everyone has to say stuff and they are like 20 people.Are there any mental illness support groups near you?
I am blessed to have three good friends who have given me a sense of connection and caring. I credit one friend in particular with preventing me from committing suicide. I have been in a difficult and painful place recently.
Have you reached out to your friends when you are in a bad place? What thoughts plague you most? Right now, I am having difficulties accepting my age and the years that were stolen from me. I always thought that I had a long life ahead of me with enough time to find the right treatment and live happily ever after. I have crossed the threshold. I no longer have that many years ahead of me. The word "career" never made sense to me. Most of the people I grew up with had successful careers. Many of them have built up enough wealth to retire and move to Florida. It is depressing.
- Scott
Posted by Lamdage22 on June 14, 2018, at 7:58:38
In reply to Re: who can i turn to for comfort? » Lamdage22, posted by SLS on June 12, 2018, at 19:16:52
> Are there any mental illness support groups near you?
I would think that there are some.
> I am blessed to have three good friends who have given me a sense of connection and caring. I credit one friend in particular with preventing me from committing suicide. I have been in a difficult and painful place recently.
I am sorry Scott. You can always go back to your old cocktail that wasnt perfect but my guess is that it is better than nothing.
> Have you reached out to your friends when you are in a bad place?
Seldomly. Maybe i have some false pride.
>What thoughts plague you most?
Social anxiety and ruminations about SA. Its why i dropped out of university.
>Right now, I am having difficulties accepting my age and the years that were stolen from me. I always thought that I had a long life ahead of me with enough time to find the right treatment and live happily ever after. I have crossed the threshold. I no longer have that many years ahead of me. The word "career" never made sense to me. Most of the people I grew up with had successful careers. Many of them have built up enough wealth to retire and move to Florida. It is depressing.
Well maybe the best is yet to come. Both in this life and after this life We dont know, but you are a good person and your chances of finding out are high.
Posted by meltingpot on July 8, 2018, at 9:54:32
In reply to Re: who can i turn to for comfort?, posted by Lamdage22 on June 14, 2018, at 7:58:38
I am lucky because I've always had a mum who dotes on me and who I've always got a lot of love from. I'm also very lucky in that I have a close male friend who still manages to make me laugh and make light out of my situation.
I'm also very lucky, in that I have a female friend who is a born again Christian (I'm agnostic). She is very vivacious, almost infectious. She has also had a lot of physical problems in her life that has stopped her having the life that she might have wanted. She is very phillosophical about it and believes there is something much greater than what we know in the here and now. Whilst I'm not a believer, I do get inspiration from her and I can identify with her.
Find people you can trust, identify with and people who can take your mind of your condition even if it is just for a short time.
As far as your social anxiety goes, join a dance group or something where you do childish things and where social ettiquette doesn't matter.
I go to a dance group once a week, admittedly I have to have a alcoholic drink halfway through to give myself something to look forward to but I can tell there are lots of other people who have issues and sometimes dancing, even if you make mistakes is a laugh and helps you forget yourself even if it is just for a few moments at a time.
Denise
Posted by Lamdage22 on July 15, 2018, at 6:09:26
In reply to Re: who can i turn to for comfort?, posted by meltingpot on July 8, 2018, at 9:54:32
I could attend groups in the gym i guess. I am too uptight for dance groups
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