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Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 15, 2012, at 16:20:37
To all you mother f*ck*rs out there who delight in messing people just because you can. I know it's because you're an *ssh*l*, but I don't care. F*ck you, I say. Drop dead. Go to hell. Take a long walk off a short pier. Or better yet, just disappear.
Posted by SLS on June 16, 2012, at 1:13:08
In reply to F*CK YOU, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 15, 2012, at 16:20:37
> To all you mother f*ck*rs out there who delight in messing people just because you can. I know it's because you're an *ssh*l*, but I don't care. F*ck you, I say. Drop dead. Go to hell. Take a long walk off a short pier. Or better yet, just disappear.
Phew...
That was close.
For a minute there, I thought you were about to write a few angry words.
I hope that you are not angry with me. That's some pretty intense stuff.
But seriously... I know that you are very upset and perhaps hurt. I suspect that I know why, but that really doesn't matter. I hope you find a place of peace as you process this stuff. Perhaps you can take advantage of these events and use them as a learning experience such that you find new and better ways to respond to them.
My advice (for what little it is worth) is to spend some time working with these issues by employing a mind-set that is receptive to change and that will foster personal growth. Just know that the passage of time will help you heal and make adjustments in your perceptions, judgments, and coping strategies.
Not too long ago, someone called me a stupid, naive, idiotic, a-hole. I responded by telling him that I had been called worse. With that, he proceeded to use the F-word towards me. Again, I told him that I had been called worse. Then he asked me if I thought I had won. I told him that there was nothing to win. I refused to give to someone the power to engage me on their terms. I would not allow them to direct my behavior. It was my goal to remain in control of myself. After all, I had no control over anyone else.
In the meantime, I guess it didn't hurt too much to blow off some steam. Perhaps it was therapeutic. Please don't be too hard on yourself if you come to regret your choice of verbiage. You don't look like a fool. You do look like a human being, though.
I hope there is something here that you find helpful. If not, that's okay with me. Perhaps others will contribute things that resonate with you better.
Take care.
- Scott
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 16, 2012, at 8:10:31
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU » sleepygirl2, posted by SLS on June 16, 2012, at 1:13:08
Hey,
The main problem, maybe, is that I don't get to vent my frustrations as much as I want/need to.
Yesterday....
I almost got into a car accident because of someone else's recklessness, I lost an important piece of jewelry, some moron decided to have fun with me because that's what other people exist for, my super controlling hypercritical coworker thinks it's her mission to correct everything I do, despite the fact that I certainly don't need correcting, and I am tired of it. I am tired of dealing with all of this by knowing I can't change it (much).
I am tired of other people behaving like they want to, while
I'm always trying to keep myself in check.
And I am super reactive right now. I miss being relatively
unaffected. Maybe I'll get there again, but I'm not there now. I want to tell off the whole world. I want people to have to deal with me, and not the other way around.
You know, the world is full of people who are convinced of their viewpoints, who are disrespectful toward and demeaning of other people, who just don't care.
I'm tired of dealing with other people's crap. I'm not in the mood, really and truly not in the mood. If someone looks at me funny I might react.
This is just a convenient place to unleash. I don't want to use "I" statements, I don't want to think. I'm angry, very angry, and depressed. So, I likely won't regret cursing all over the boards. Civility, tact and forethought have gone on holiday.
Thanks for your reply Scott. It is appreciated.
Posted by Phillipa on June 16, 2012, at 10:49:29
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU » SLS, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 16, 2012, at 8:10:31
Glad you feel safe enought to vent here. And hoping things a a tiny bit better today. Phillipa
Posted by ron1953 on June 18, 2012, at 17:33:36
In reply to F*CK YOU, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 15, 2012, at 16:20:37
This is Psycho Babble Social - perhaps this should have been posted in Psycho Babble Anti-Social.
Posted by SLS on June 19, 2012, at 20:26:59
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU, posted by ron1953 on June 18, 2012, at 17:33:36
> This is Psycho Babble Social - perhaps this should have been posted in Psycho Babble Anti-Social.
I don't see someone who is so much antisocial as I see someone who is hurt and extremely angry.
- Scott
Posted by papillon2 on June 20, 2012, at 8:35:09
In reply to F*CK YOU, posted by sleepygirl2 on June 15, 2012, at 16:20:37
My psychologist says everyone needs a good "f*ck you moment" now and then. "Get angry", he says, "it's good for you!" I just sit there in silence, LOL. So good on you for letting it out.
When I am in a f*ck you mood I like to play Damien Rice's "Rootless Tree" loud and on repeat:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6rndltmm3oE&feature=youtube_gdata_player
The song is about cheating, but I've found it particularly useful for saying f*ck you to the eating disorder monster when it's persecuting me. Insert your own target. Super critical, hyper-controlling co-worker? F*ck you! Unending depression? F*ck you too!
Enjoy.
Posted by ron1953 on June 20, 2012, at 9:00:22
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU, posted by papillon2 on June 20, 2012, at 8:35:09
> My psychologist says everyone needs a good "f*ck you moment" now and then. "Get angry", he says, "it's good for you!"
>Sure - but at a bunch of strangers in a public forum? And to not give any lucid background as to what the anger is about or who the real objects are?
eff THAT!
Pretty hard to offer any validation or support when you have no idea what to validate or support.
Posted by gadchik on June 20, 2012, at 14:39:35
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU, posted by ron1953 on June 20, 2012, at 9:00:22
I think we all come on here to bare our souls,whether its a sobbing,soppy mess,or a f*cking,cursing rant.I will listen and support,even if I dont know every detail.So,sleepygirl,I hear ya!
Posted by sleepygirl2 on June 20, 2012, at 15:39:51
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU, posted by gadchik on June 20, 2012, at 14:39:35
A stiff breeze could've knocked me over that day, but I had way more than that to deal with.
Your kindness is very much appreciated.
Posted by twinleaf on June 29, 2012, at 16:29:45
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU, posted by gadchik on June 20, 2012, at 14:39:35
I too think it's great to express one's anger and frustration, and you let us know that there were good reasons for your feeling that way. But there could be readers here who might feel hurt or accused by your expressing it the way you did. If you put "I feel..." in first, I think everyone would readily empathize with you and no-one would take it personally.
Because we are presently unmonitored, I think we need to take care to express ourselves in such a way that readers, as well as posters, feel safe here,
Posted by sleepygirl2 on July 2, 2012, at 22:03:04
In reply to Re: F*CK YOU, posted by twinleaf on June 29, 2012, at 16:29:45
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