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Posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:30:46
Okay, so I read an email from my ex tonight...and it reminded me what love is NOT. It's just really tough when you have a fossil of the scent of a man's pheremones imprinted on your brain...I have to remind myself about the concept of love and passion - it has nothing to do with that OR him. Who cares what anyone thinks.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stDIr4Fh80E
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ewO5NWQ97sI&feature=PlayList&p=AC82C2E3CB086752&playnext=1&index=33
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aqvcqniwsz0&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Jj3wZVc7nw&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNj9RkqYLwU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FjTB6EG3xGo
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oy8Sg5GrYBY
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eF9dc3rQSek&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TUPiMturwcs&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TKLhoNm9K-Y&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkoX8CmHXew&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaPO5qiIjAI&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5kZys5QvR8M&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sOz0WTcqW4&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jOQGbNcui9U&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUy6v3oGTOo&feature=relatedSo I'm a pile of mush..I don't think I'll EVER get over that movie - City of Angels. That was our special connection...OUR movie...OUR soundtrack...the special CD when we were at the log cabins in the mountains...how can someone pretend to feel that way about you? How possible?
Posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:40:58
In reply to Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:30:46
so he's probably at some luxury cabins in the quaintest, cutest little town imaginiable... pretending to be the man of dreams of some other woman..listening to OUR CD..OUR songs..the copy I made for him...How can somebody be so deceptive????????????????????????? How could somebody fake Love? I can't even imagine faking such passion, such feelings
Posted by SLS on February 22, 2009, at 7:14:27
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:40:58
I don't know.
Do you think he set out to fool you, or was he really just fooling himself?
- Scott
Posted by Phillipa on February 22, 2009, at 10:41:51
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely...love and passion » garnet71, posted by SLS on February 22, 2009, at 7:14:27
I've watched passion die several times in my own life. It just happens drifting in different directions. Could say more but won't. Love Phillipa
Posted by garnet71 on February 22, 2009, at 11:22:44
In reply to Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:30:46
He prefers to live in a fantasy world. We never fought about anything until I found out what he was doing behind my back--things were so good when we were together. When he found out I was not 'perfect' (as I was his ideal woman), that I had emotions and needs, it jolted his fantasy. I spoke with some of his ex girlfriends. It's a cycle he has repeated several times in the past. Only for us, it was much longer than the others. His excuse was that I would not marry him. He never understood I needed to trust him first before I would consider. He has no integrity. That's way too important for me to dismiss.
It doesn't really matter anymore. I was just venting, and for some reason it goes hand in hand with music. lol. I didn't take my Ritalin yesterday because I spent 18 hours on research the day before and needed a break.
I really, really miss having a therapist to talk to.
Posted by Kath on February 22, 2009, at 15:20:02
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by garnet71 on February 22, 2009, at 11:22:44
(((((((((you)))))))
Any chance you can get a therapist? Are there any available through the community hospital, for ex?
I have been able to find some free therapy fortunately. It would be simply too expensive otherwise.
I'm in Canada & even here there's a waiting list for free counselling, but it does exist.
hugs, Kath
PS - Very sorry about what happened to you. It sounds like he has ongoing, serious problems.
Posted by yellowbird01 on February 22, 2009, at 18:13:36
In reply to Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:30:46
I wish I knew.
((((garnet))))
You're not alone. Wish I could offer more, but you're not alone.
Posted by garnet71 on February 23, 2009, at 1:14:09
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely...love and passion » garnet71, posted by Kath on February 22, 2009, at 15:20:02
Kath--you are such a sweetie!!
I just can't handle seeking discounted therapy, and dealing with the time slots/appointments--as much as I want to continue therapy. My to do list is HUGE. I did so little from December up unitl last week--my driver's license expired back in October--and I still haven't made it a priorty to renew it because of other things at the top of the list. If I could only catch up on things, I would be more inclined to work on my health. I've spent hours and hours and hours trying to catch up on my research--my eyes are all red and swollen from looking at a computer screen.
But reading his email was a minor setback; I should have known better and am over it (until next time perhaps)!
Thanks for the hugs!!!
Posted by garnet71 on February 23, 2009, at 1:42:16
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by yellowbird01 on February 22, 2009, at 18:13:36
Thanks, ((((((((Yellowbird))))))))....Hugs back 'atcha!
Nice to hear from you, too!
Posted by Justherself54 on February 23, 2009, at 23:49:46
In reply to Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by garnet71 on February 21, 2009, at 23:30:46
I have no pearls of wisdom..I thought I'd found my rock, someone who would never leave me, and stick by me though the good times and the bad...when I was in a horrible, horrible depression, he told me one night how much he loved me and the next day told me he couldn't take the depression anymore and that I was "too emotionally high maintenance"..and that he wasn't the man he thought he was..I don't know how people can say one thing and totally bail entirely out of your life.
Time heals all, but I'm still pretty sure if I bumped into him, I'd "flip him the bird".
Relationships are hard, hard work..I don't know if I have the energy or desire to share who I am with another man..too scary..and risky..
I hope you continue to heal and become strong within yourself. Hugs to you ((((you))))
Posted by Garnet71 on February 26, 2009, at 19:55:51
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely...love and passion, posted by Justherself54 on February 23, 2009, at 23:49:46
"when I was in a horrible, horrible depression, he told me one night how much he loved me and the next day told me he couldn't take the depression anymore and that I was "too emotionally high maintenance"..and that he wasn't the man he thought he was.."
I'm sorry, Justherself54, that this happened to you. Sickness is the ultimate test, isn't it? I hope you have already, or will someday, see that you are better off without him. Hugs back.
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