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Posted by daveuk08 on June 23, 2008, at 17:26:15
As you all are aware,I`m devastated by Slinky`s death.This is about the "S" word,it`s got to stop.These "S"`s have got to stop, 2 so far this year alone.
I`ve read through all of Slinky`s,ak Dreamer,ak Dr eamerz,ak ctrlAltnDel,& I think more ak`s, some painful to read,some flirtasious,some funny & humorous,and those wonderful pics of bunnies,ladies,flowers, and those of Dr Bob.She was definatly a girl full of life when her mood was right,but when down she was really hurting.
I`ve learnt a hell of alot from her postings, especialy when she was down,she would disapeare for weeks even months leaving you all guessing as to whether or or not she was ok,but I believe she was still watching the posts, even answering some under a diferent name ?, but being the girl that she was,did`nt want any contact with anyone when in that mood.I had always told her that if ever she was down when not with me to phone at any time day or night.I was always there for her,but just like here,she did`nt at that final hour.Slinky has gone,I have to accept that,I know she got really down after Kid A`s death,she told me,and others in the past.It`s now time to banish the "S" word,lets not ever see or hear of it again.I now know 1st hand,when you loose someone as close to you as Slinky was to me to that the damage it can do to those left behind.I know what it`s like when there seems to be no hope left in life, it seems the only thing left to do,I know because in Sept 1985, I to tryied to do the same thing,my marriage was over, my ex wanted me out so her new man could move in,the thought of not seeing my 3 children drove to that final straw, life wasn`t worth living,luckyly I did it right place right time & wrong material, I`m still here to tell the tale,and as Slinky put in one of her last threads,I have the marks on my neck to show it.
Well you may end the pian and the misery for yourself,but believe you me,you start a hell of alot for those that you have left behind.
SO PLEASE NO MORE "S"`s,and NO MORE "S" WORDS.
Dave. (against "S"`s and the "S" word)
Yes we are No1, but think of others before you think of yourself.
Posted by Phillipa on June 24, 2008, at 0:23:21
In reply to ======('READ THIS AND REPLY')==========, posted by daveuk08 on June 23, 2008, at 17:26:15
Dave I hope also there are no more. Please continue with counseling and vent all you like here. Love Phillipa
Posted by obsidian on June 24, 2008, at 21:35:23
In reply to ======('READ THIS AND REPLY')==========, posted by daveuk08 on June 23, 2008, at 17:26:15
hi dave,
READ AND REPLY - this one felt like it required some real thought...I don't know if my response will be adequate
I didn't know slinky really, but I certainly knew her name, and I can see how loved she was on these boards. I have been reading though, and I am so truly sorry for your loss.
there should not be any more "S"'s, there never should have been any, it's not fair
What is it that we can learn from them? What is it that someone can do in the aftermath?
I'm just asking the questions because I ask them myself. I don't expect anyone to have answers. I am very anti "S", but I know it has felt like a solution for me in the past.
no more "S"s dave, I agree
I hope you have a lot of support right now.
be well,
sid
Posted by Toph on June 26, 2008, at 0:14:09
In reply to ======('READ THIS AND REPLY')==========, posted by daveuk08 on June 23, 2008, at 17:26:15
>...I know what it`s like when there seems to be no hope left in life, it seems the only thing left to do,I know because in Sept 1985, I to tried to do the same thing,my marriage was over, my ex wanted me out so her new man could move in,the thought of not seeing my 3 children drove to that final straw, life wasn`t worth living,luckyly I did it right place right time & wrong material, I`m still here to tell the tale,and as Slinky put in one of her last threads,I have the marks on my neck to show it.
>I feel awful about Slinky and for your loss Dave. For what its worth, I lived what you endured with your kids. Watched them so hurt and confused as I left and another took my place. I, too, felt those intense feelings you describe - end it all to punish her, hurt her for revenge, run to Alaska with the kids, kill the m*th*rf*ck*r, whatever. In the end each reaction would just hurt my kids more. I guess it all comes down to how much pain from loss are you willing to risk by caring about something or someone so much. The hardest part is to be willing and able to take that very risk again.
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