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Posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 20:59:48
ugh....
I feel so bad...I don't even know exactly why, except that everything just hurts and I feel trapped
I feel so guilty for who I am
I feel so absolutely incompetent in so many areas of my life
but I know it could be worse (I'm worried now that things will get worse because I am complaining)
I just made a lot of bad choices
I am sorry that I have wasted a lot of my life
I missed something along the way
I didn't mean to screw up...I just did
I'm sorry
Posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 21:06:57
In reply to feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read, posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 20:59:48
sid see my thread above I feel like you but I'm sure you didn't do anything that normal people do. Like make a mistake. I'm sorry you're feeling bad. Phillipa
Posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 21:13:47
In reply to feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read, posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 20:59:48
I am SO tired of being scared
So tired
everything is such a freaking effort
I need to be alone for a while, but I can't be
everything feels like an onslaught
I have to fix this somehow
Posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 21:17:13
In reply to Re: feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read » obsidian, posted by Phillipa on March 18, 2008, at 21:06:57
thanks phillipa,
everything is so overwhelming right now
I just want to cry and cry
Posted by Sigismund on March 19, 2008, at 2:51:39
In reply to feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read, posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 20:59:48
In this film called "Noi", set in Iceland that looks like a cross between an airfield and the wild west, a fat bookshop owner is reading Kierkegaard. He reads out a passage, Noi says "Can I have that?', the fat owner says 'No, buy your own', and throws the book in the bin.
The passage he reads out is.......
Marry, and you will regret it. Do not marry, and you will also regret it. Marry or do not marry, you will regret it either way. Whether you marry or you do not marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the stupidities of the world, and you will regret it; weep over them, and you will also regret it. Laugh at the stupidities of the world or weep over them, you will regret it either way. Whether you laugh at the stupidities of the world or you weep over them, you will regret it either way. Trust a girl, and you will regret it. Do not trust her, and you will also regret it. Trust a girl or do not trust her, you will regret it either way. Whether you trust a girl or do not trust her, you will regret it either way. Hang yourself, and you will regret it. Do not hang yourself, and you will also regret it. Hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret it either way. Whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret it either way.
Posted by Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 11:24:44
In reply to feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read, posted by obsidian on March 18, 2008, at 20:59:48
(((Obsidian)))
I'm sorry you're feeling so rotten.
I've certainly felt trapped a lot in my life. And my traps were generally of my own making, from my own choices.
I hope I'm not saying something you already know and don't wish to hear again, but...
There's nothing you can do about the past other than try to learn from it, and make amends where you can. Your future depends just as much on the choices you make now as it does on the choices you made before. So if there's any way you can find help or advice on how to start pulling your way out of the traps you feel you're in, the more of the rest of your life will be available to ways that are more satisfying to you.
Can you think of any one thing you can do to help? Visit a guidance counselor or career counselor or whatever you might need to figure a way out?
Posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 18:01:27
In reply to Re: feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read, posted by Sigismund on March 19, 2008, at 2:51:39
thanks sig,
it's sort of the damned if you do and damned if you don't kind of philosophy, eh?
this story seems to pop inside my head whenever I think of what I "should" do, based on someone else's judgment
http://www.pagebypagebooks.com/Aesop/Aesops_Fables/The_Man_the_Boy_and_the_Donkey_p1.html
Posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 18:24:17
In reply to Re: feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read » obsidian, posted by Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 11:24:44
I will find a way, I am just tired and sad. Mostly though, what I am is anxious. My preferred method of coping though, avoidance, has its own pitfalls.
I have been a firm believer of feeling the fear, but doing it anyway, but lately I want to go with the path of least resistance.
It seems that it is truly unimportant what I would "like" to do or what "feels good", because those things don't exist. I have been operating under the false impression that I would find those things if I could get past the breakers. It would seem however that there is only obligation and responsibility while trying to survive each immediate challenge. I think I have tried to do more than I am able to do. I think I learned too early what it is to be miserable, to grit your teeth and bear it, that I missed the point.
Posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 18:38:45
In reply to Re: feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read » Dinah, posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 18:24:17
I've got to slow down (not stop) but slow down, stay in the moment, take it easy and simplify
I've got a lot of things going for me, I know it, I just feel overwhelmed
Posted by Dinah on March 19, 2008, at 18:44:47
In reply to Re: feeling lousy....just ranting- don't read » Dinah, posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 18:24:17
Posted by TexasChic on March 19, 2008, at 19:48:08
In reply to geez, sorry I'm such a downer...., posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 18:38:45
Not a downer, just one of us. Wish I could advise, but at the moment I'm drinking my blues away - not all that constructive. But I DO understand.. believe that.
(((O)))
-T
Posted by obsidian on March 19, 2008, at 20:32:45
In reply to Re: geez, sorry I'm such a downer.... » obsidian, posted by TexasChic on March 19, 2008, at 19:48:08
thanks chic,
just don't drink TOO much okay?
hope you feel better soon too
-sid
Posted by Sigismund on March 19, 2008, at 22:17:43
In reply to Re: geez, sorry I'm such a downer.... » obsidian, posted by TexasChic on March 19, 2008, at 19:48:08
I think all you people here are really great, which is why I come.
We can be a pain too, of course.
Posted by Sigismund on March 20, 2008, at 1:51:44
In reply to Re: geez, sorry I'm such a downer.... » obsidian, posted by TexasChic on March 19, 2008, at 19:48:08
sang Edith Piaff
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