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Posted by Ashlynn99 on October 24, 2007, at 17:00:19
I am so freaking tired of being confused. Long story short...Together with someone on and off for 11 years (since HS) now moved to a different state with another wonderful man that I am engaged to but still so confused. On top of this I am homesick, hate my job, hate my life, pretty much feel like I am spinning out of control. To top it off gained 20 lbs (even though I work out 4x perweek) I did just quit smoking (kind of) still have 2 a day. I am at the end of my rope. Any suggestions from anyone?
Posted by Phil on October 24, 2007, at 19:47:02
In reply to help, posted by Ashlynn99 on October 24, 2007, at 17:00:19
B r e a t h e. Relax.
>I am at the end of my rope. Any suggestions from anyone?
Tie a knot.
Are you confused as to whom you want to be with?
I'm slow..work with me here.
Posted by Ashlynn99 on October 25, 2007, at 11:09:32
In reply to Re: help » Ashlynn99, posted by Phil on October 24, 2007, at 19:47:02
Yes I am confused on who I want to be with, unless I am getting it confused with being homesick. I t could be I am missing man#1 because he is home near my family.
I have neve been away from my fam and i m iss them so very much they are my best friends. But if I go home I sacrifice my relationship here and if I stay I sacrifice a lot of time with my family. Because it just is not practical to get home that often.. Money, job, etc...
Posted by Phillipa on October 25, 2007, at 12:29:00
In reply to Re: help, posted by Ashlynn99 on October 25, 2007, at 11:09:32
Well who in your heart do you feel a connection with first thought. That's who I'd go with. Phillipa
Posted by Ashlynn99 on October 29, 2007, at 12:17:45
In reply to Re: help » Ashlynn99, posted by Phil on October 24, 2007, at 19:47:02
So, I am trying to "tie the knot" at the end of my rope and it just isn't working. This morning I woke up fighting mad again, Angry. Angry at the world and I didn't want to get out of bed,. I wanted to completly blow everything off. (not the norm monday morning blues) I found myself wondering how I was going to make it through the day. With thoughts of the ex, with missing my family back home, with hating my a-hole of a boss, with missing my friends, with dealing with all sorts of craziness here I don't know how I am supposed to go on with another week like this, I feel like in a lot of ways if I just go home things would be a lot better but then what about my love? Do I just go back to the saying, If it comes back then you know. Because honestly I am ill right now. I am so anxiety ridden and angry that I just want to scream, or lock myself in a room. Any suggestions from anyone. I am looking for anything... Any comments or suggestions I will take, even if you think I don't want to hear them but need to .
Posted by rskontos on October 29, 2007, at 13:17:20
In reply to Not getting better » Phil, posted by Ashlynn99 on October 29, 2007, at 12:17:45
Ashlynn, I am newbie to this board but not babble. Is there anyway just to go home for a visit to see if it is homesickness and if you visited maybe you could explore your feelings. It could be you are homesick but going back isn't the right answer either. IT could be growing pains. You may be in a transition phase where you have outgrown home but needed the security it represents but you are not yet ready to call your new place home because it doesn't feel like it yet. We all need to visit home especially right after going away. It might be too early to through in the towel and burn your bridges with the new guy since you do call him the love of your life. I live in an area I hate but it home for now. It is where my husband is, I would move in a heartbeat but I am here for now. It is where his job is. I don't like this part of the country but it is where we live. Maybe you dont really like where you are living. Maybe try one thing at a time, look for a new job or hobby while you are searching for a better job. But try going home for a visit first. Hope this helps. I think you need to explore your options before you make a decision. good luck. I understand depression. I am there too. Let me know how it goes. rk
Posted by TexasChic on October 30, 2007, at 20:05:01
In reply to help, posted by Ashlynn99 on October 24, 2007, at 17:00:19
• Together with someone on and off for 11 years... now engaged another man
• moved to a different state... homesick
• hate job
• gained 20 lbs
• just quit smokingThat's a LOT of changes going on at once, you have every right to feel overwhelmed! Allow yourself to feel these things, they are legitimate. Then take them one at a time and decide what you can do to change things for the better. Next take the steps to change what you can, one at a time (don't put too much pressure on yourself, its a lot of stuff!). From my personal experience, having a job you hate can make your whole life miserable. Just changing that might make you feel a lot better. Also, do you have a therapist? A T can be very helpful in figuring this all out.
I hope this helps some. Keep us posted on how things are going!
-T
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