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Posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
I'm starting to have panic attacks. Too many people on one little screen, too many conversations, too hard for me to follow. It takes me so long to type out a reply, everyone's moved on to other subjects.
There are other reasons chat makes me uneasy, but it's too triggery for me to talk about. Let's just say that I am easily distressed right now. Still having a difficult time. Good days, bad, and today was worthy of staying in the shower and looking straight up, like a chicken in the rain.
And when things go quiet on chat, well, ya gotta look around and say, "it wasn't me, I swear."
I hope I didn't offend anyone by bolting out and off tonight, but I know I won't be able to calm down.
CS
Posted by wishingstar on January 21, 2007, at 20:58:33
In reply to I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
I wasnt there so I'm probably not the best person to be responding, but oh well. Tonight is a night of "what the heck do I care".
Chat is a scary place. I've never actually been in it because it just intimidates me a little too much. Especailly with all the recent... intensity (?) on the site.
I'm sorry you're having a hard time recently and that chat is triggering it. But I'm glad you were able to take yourself out of the situation when it got to be too much. I'm sure everyone who was in the room will understand. Feelings are feelings.
Posted by Phillipa on January 21, 2007, at 21:30:06
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by wishingstar on January 21, 2007, at 20:58:33
Me neither never been there here it's like MSN too fast paced for me and my little brain. Clear Skies give yourself some chill time. Take that shower or a hot bath. Love Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 22:03:15
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by Phillipa on January 21, 2007, at 21:30:06
Posted by Honore on January 21, 2007, at 23:58:49
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by Phillipa on January 21, 2007, at 21:30:06
Me either. Don't know why I stayed, but I"m sure it wasn't a good reason.
I'm totally bummed about it. Must not go there any more.
Honore
Posted by jammerlich on January 22, 2007, at 1:21:17
In reply to I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
(((ClearSkies)))
It's OK if you need to bolt. I bolt sometimes, too.
I don't know if it would help, but if you ever want to switch to a less populated room and I'm around, just ask me. I'd be happy to make the leap with you.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 22, 2007, at 2:18:44
In reply to I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
I have problems too and type slow and poorly. So I have to make short cuts in what I type ...and that can lead others to guess at what I am saying cause I cannot type it all out. Yes many were on tonight. I had an odd half converstation and then someone thought that I said things I didnt..It was odd and not too comfy.I did the best I could to help others understand what I was saying but I may have failed
> I'm starting to have panic attacks. Too many people on one little screen, too many conversations, too hard for me to follow. It takes me so long to type out a reply, everyone's moved on to other subjects.
>
> There are other reasons chat makes me uneasy, but it's too triggery for me to talk about. Let's just say that I am easily distressed right now. Still having a difficult time. Good days, bad, and today was worthy of staying in the shower and looking straight up, like a chicken in the rain.
>
> And when things go quiet on chat, well, ya gotta look around and say, "it wasn't me, I swear."
>
> I hope I didn't offend anyone by bolting out and off tonight, but I know I won't be able to calm down.
>
> CS
Posted by Dinah on January 22, 2007, at 2:33:21
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger* » ClearSkies, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 22, 2007, at 2:18:44
I certainly appreciate your taking the time to clear up my misunderstandings, and I apologize for being confused.
I believe in the end, you did clear up my misperceptions and left me with an accurate picture of what you were saying.
I'm pretty sure that's true, because I thought we did a pretty good job with my reflecting back what I thought you were saying, and your correcting me where necessary.
Thank you for taking the time, and I apologize if my end of the conversation appeared odd. I was trying through trial and error to understand as best I could. Thank you for your patience.
Posted by justyourlaugh on January 22, 2007, at 7:10:32
In reply to I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
that the beauty of the internet...bolting is always acceptable :)
Posted by ClearSkies on January 22, 2007, at 7:48:13
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger* » ClearSkies, posted by justyourlaugh on January 22, 2007, at 7:10:32
> that the beauty of the internet...bolting is always acceptable :)
....not always acceptable. Leaving in a huff leaves others wondering just what they said to cause someone to leave (I know it makes me wonder).Chat is way, way too triggering for me. Social anxiety at its worst. Small talk becomes enormous. Undercurrents in conversations become undertows, and I'm pulled under too easily. So I think I'm gonna leave it alone. It's not a safe place for me to be. Last night it took me 2 hours to peel myself off the ceiling - and I didn't even say hardly anything in chat! The evening and night is such a tough time of the day for me; I have be vigilant in keeping safe.
Sometimes babble feels like I'm watching a car wreck in slow motion, and I'm utterly unable to move or help. Chat feels like jaywalking during rush hour on the highway right now.
Posted by justyourlaugh on January 22, 2007, at 9:21:10
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat **trigger** » justyourlaugh, posted by ClearSkies on January 22, 2007, at 7:48:13
correction...
bolting is always acceptable to me :)
stay safe...
Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 22, 2007, at 10:59:00
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat **trigger** » ClearSkies, posted by justyourlaugh on January 22, 2007, at 9:21:10
hi Clearskies,
I'm sorry that chat is not good for you right now. I usually have a good time, but occasionally I also feel like the conversation is too close for comfort.the tempo and the personalities really change from one day to another, so when you're feeling more balnced you might give it another shot.
miss your clear thinking clear skies,
hope the panic monster lets you out for good behvior one of these days.
yours,
-Ll
Posted by Gee on January 22, 2007, at 15:49:52
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat **trigger** » justyourlaugh, posted by ClearSkies on January 22, 2007, at 7:48:13
Clearskies
I'm sorry chat is so hard for you right now. I'm sorry that you're still having such a hard time. I'm glad that you are still posting though.
Posted by Deneb on January 22, 2007, at 17:00:26
In reply to I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
I understand if chat is triggering. Do whatever you need to protect yourself. We understand.
(((((((((ClearSkies)))))))))))
Deneb*
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 22, 2007, at 17:58:43
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger* » Fallen4MyT, posted by Dinah on January 22, 2007, at 2:33:21
You are welcome Dinah I didn't want you to go to bed worried but I wasn't able to (in type) be as clear to some of your worries as I wished I could have been. I am glad you feel some better.
> I certainly appreciate your taking the time to clear up my misunderstandings, and I apologize for being confused.
>
> I believe in the end, you did clear up my misperceptions and left me with an accurate picture of what you were saying.
>
> I'm pretty sure that's true, because I thought we did a pretty good job with my reflecting back what I thought you were saying, and your correcting me where necessary.
>
> Thank you for taking the time, and I apologize if my end of the conversation appeared odd. I was trying through trial and error to understand as best I could. Thank you for your patience.
Posted by ClearSkies on January 23, 2007, at 8:51:28
In reply to Re: I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 22, 2007, at 17:58:43
...that I find this completely confusing? I haven't the faintest idea what either of you are talking about.
Once again, I'm on the outside, looking in.
CS
> You are welcome Dinah I didn't want you to go to bed worried but I wasn't able to (in type) be as clear to some of your worries as I wished I could have been. I am glad you feel some better.
>
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> > I certainly appreciate your taking the time to clear up my misunderstandings, and I apologize for being confused.
> >
> > I believe in the end, you did clear up my misperceptions and left me with an accurate picture of what you were saying.
> >
> > I'm pretty sure that's true, because I thought we did a pretty good job with my reflecting back what I thought you were saying, and your correcting me where necessary.
> >
> > Thank you for taking the time, and I apologize if my end of the conversation appeared odd. I was trying through trial and error to understand as best I could. Thank you for your patience.
>
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Posted by Dinah on January 23, 2007, at 9:09:09
In reply to Can I just say..., posted by ClearSkies on January 23, 2007, at 8:51:28
It happened well after you left chat.
I wouldnt' have mentioned it on board, except that Fallen referred to feeling not too comfy about it. So I wanted to apologize for that, and to express my gratitude that she was willing to talk things through with me so that I understood. It made me feel much better, although again, I'm sorry if it made her feel uncomfortable. I hadn't realized that she felt uncomfortable.
There's nothing really more to it than that. I was having trouble understanding what Fallen was trying to convey, but we worked it out.
Posted by ClearSkies on January 23, 2007, at 9:45:31
In reply to Re: Can I just say... » ClearSkies, posted by Dinah on January 23, 2007, at 9:09:09
> It happened well after you left chat.
>Can you see that I'm mystified, then?
This is a conversation that happened after I left chat. have no idea what it was about, and here it is, words circling around each other, in a thread about how difficult I'm finding chat.
It just illustrates the aura of Outcast that I feel accompanies me into the chat room. I don't have a clue, I can't get a clue, people talk about clues that I can't even see.Clueless, that's me.
I think I've said enough about chat, and maybe I have decided that it is just too complex for my challenged mind to tackle. It gets me frustrated, worried, and finally, paranoid. I think that's reason enough to stay away if I'm feeling like this.Thanks for explaining,
CS> I wouldnt' have mentioned it on board, except that Fallen referred to feeling not too comfy about it. So I wanted to apologize for that, and to express my gratitude that she was willing to talk things through with me so that I understood. It made me feel much better, although again, I'm sorry if it made her feel uncomfortable. I hadn't realized that she felt uncomfortable.
>
> There's nothing really more to it than that. I was having trouble understanding what Fallen was trying to convey, but we worked it out.
Posted by Dinah on January 23, 2007, at 10:16:19
In reply to Re: Can I just say... » Dinah, posted by ClearSkies on January 23, 2007, at 9:45:31
Ah, ok. I'm sorry. I should have started another thread to apologize to, and thank Fallen. Or babblemailed her.
I understand now, and I'm sorry. That was insensitive of me. Things like that sometimes don't occur to me. :(
I hope you find you can find a way to chat again. Whether you do or don't think it's best for you, you certainly aren't an outcast. I think Llurpsie said what I would say better than I could say it.
Posted by AuntieMel on January 23, 2007, at 13:42:20
In reply to I'm not suited for chat *trigger*, posted by ClearSkies on January 21, 2007, at 20:12:46
Me either, I think. It all goes too fast for me.
When posting I have time to think things out before I hit "submit" - and even then it doesn't seem like I can say anything right.
I don't imagine I'd have time in chat for anything other than "I'm sorry" "I didn't mean that"
Give me a call if you want to chat without typing.
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this one struck my funny bone:
'And when things go quiet on chat, well, ya gotta look around and say, "it wasn't me, I swear."'
blame it on the dog.
Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 23, 2007, at 18:59:55
In reply to Can I just say..., posted by ClearSkies on January 23, 2007, at 8:51:28
CS..I always enjoy chatting with you and see you in such a different light than you mention about yourself.....I think youre IN not outside and am sorry you feel on the outside. ....cause I think you rock. Would it help to know it was between me and Dinah and nothing bad? We are all cool and BM me any time you wanna talk
> ...that I find this completely confusing? I haven't the faintest idea what either of you are talking about.
>
> Once again, I'm on the outside, looking in.
> CS
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> > You are welcome Dinah I didn't want you to go to bed worried but I wasn't able to (in type) be as clear to some of your worries as I wished I could have been. I am glad you feel some better.
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> > > I certainly appreciate your taking the time to clear up my misunderstandings, and I apologize for being confused.
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> > > I believe in the end, you did clear up my misperceptions and left me with an accurate picture of what you were saying.
> > >
> > > I'm pretty sure that's true, because I thought we did a pretty good job with my reflecting back what I thought you were saying, and your correcting me where necessary.
> > >
> > > Thank you for taking the time, and I apologize if my end of the conversation appeared odd. I was trying through trial and error to understand as best I could. Thank you for your patience.
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> >
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Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 23, 2007, at 19:51:55
In reply to Re: Can I just say... » ClearSkies, posted by Fallen4MyT on January 23, 2007, at 18:59:55
Clearskies, you're an amazing person. You do so much despite your hypomanic challenges. I think you should cut yourself a little slack every now and then. It's OKAY to *not* be a chat person. I'm not a long-hair person, and I'm never going to be a natural athelete. Heck I can't even manage to figure out how to be married and live in the same home as my husband... (this is a work in progress).
So, maybe something confusing happened. I hope you will listen to other people who were there on that day, and who stress that you were not the complete nincompoop you allude to!
best wishes,
Ll
(one of your biggest fans :)
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