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Posted by fi on April 24, 2006, at 14:37:01
This feels a bit like joining in at a party where everyone else is chatting..
I've not got serious depression at the moment. I am just at a stage when I'm not interested in things, and getting through the everyday things like eating, doing work seems hard work. I seem to have got out of just doing things without thinking about it as a regular routine eg shopping, cleaning, washing and ironing. I've also stopped opening most of my letters.
So I suppose its really about getting myself into doing things as a routine again. And getting myself thru the everyday stuff.
Any suggestions/tips would be great.
Fi
Posted by jammerlich on April 24, 2006, at 15:25:30
In reply to How do you get thru the everyday slog?, posted by fi on April 24, 2006, at 14:37:01
You know, that sounds like depression to me. Maybe not severe, but still depression.
And I have no idea what to tell you about getting out of it because I am the same way. If my best friend came to the door, I wouldn't answer - my house looks WAY too bad. I think just about every dish I own is dirty. And I haven't showered today because I'm not going to see anyone, so what's the point.
I do have work I need to get done and that's been hard too. Right now, I'm just trying to do 15 minutes at a time. If I can do that long, I'll let myself do whatever until I feel like I can manage 15 more minutes. Do you think you could do that? Just 15 mintues (or 10 or 5 or whatever you can) of one of those things on your list of things do do.
I just find that telling myself I must *finish* something makes it too overwhelming. So, 15 minutes, it is. *That* I can do....sometimes.
Posted by curtm on April 24, 2006, at 16:26:10
In reply to How do you get thru the everyday slog?, posted by fi on April 24, 2006, at 14:37:01
Sometimes (very often) I feel like there is so much stuff to do that it feels overwhelming. I might make a list of "chores" or something to do, which makes it worse I think. Then of all things, I'll keep adding stuff to it! I try to keep my lists as short as possible, or don't make them at all. I know what needs to get done.
Sometimes when I am in a DEPRESSED state, I just throw them away. I can always make a new one later. I'll turn the TV off, plug the iPOD into the stereo and purposely pace around the house listening to music until I finally feel like doing something more productive, like the dishes, after I have walked past them a dozen times. That usually gets my mind rolling into doing something else, like some laundry.
Other times when I am in a more MANIC state, I can't put the list down and keep busy. This is just part of my personality cycle that I have to accept. I guess it all averages out in the end.
Posted by Phillipa on April 24, 2006, at 21:28:02
In reply to Re: How do you get thru the everyday slog?, posted by curtm on April 24, 2006, at 16:26:10
I once was a part of a therphy group that said do just one thing a day. This relieved the pressure of being a super being. And this lead to doing more . Love Phillipa
Posted by fi on April 25, 2006, at 15:05:56
In reply to Re: How do you get thru the everyday slog?, posted by Phillipa on April 24, 2006, at 21:28:02
jammerlich, curtm and phillipa:
That's been great- a mixture of wise suggestions and knowing its not just me! It can feel like an awful secret. Which is silly really, as I wouldnt think that of someone else in this position.
An (optional) list and regular little chunks are a good way forward- I opened a few letters today!
And particularly not feeling I'm some mixture of being lazy and a freak.
Fi
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on April 26, 2006, at 8:40:50
In reply to Re: the everyday slog- thank you!, posted by fi on April 25, 2006, at 15:05:56
Hello, sorry I'm abit late on this tread, but I wanted to add what I read somewhere on this site:
Some days you just are meant to get through (to get to the good ones).
Or something like that.
Well it helps me anyway.
Meri
Posted by fi on April 27, 2006, at 18:10:01
In reply to Re: the everyday slog- thank you!, posted by Meri-Tuuli on April 26, 2006, at 8:40:50
Hi Meri
Spooky- I just replied to your post about horrible UK (officially) spring weather!!
No post is ever late, as far as I remember (joining again after years).
That is a very good thought to use- not trying to achieve anything amazing, but just to get thru.
Thanks (or should I say ta!)
Fi
Posted by curtm on April 27, 2006, at 21:15:20
In reply to Re: How do you get thru the everyday slog?, posted by curtm on April 24, 2006, at 16:26:10
Another important thing I do to get through the slog is to visit my new friends here! We understand each other, whereas the average Joe cannot comprehend any of what we go through.
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