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Posted by wildcard11 on April 5, 2006, at 6:00:16
i feel like i am gonna lose it, whatever *it* is...my brothers father is and always has been a drug addict and alcoholic. he was sober for 7 years but has been drinking, etc. again for several. my youngest brother feels he has to babysit him from driving, etc.. my brothers mental health is falling apart, not that it has ever been stable. our mom walked out on my younger brothers and left them w/ him 11 years ago..i know i need to commit him, i am just so f*cking sick and tired of his and my mothers bad decisions affecting MY life. i broke that cycle, i got away but i'm torn~i love my brothers too much to turn away...i'm about to cry so i'll go. just needed to get it out....
Posted by special_k on April 5, 2006, at 8:03:08
In reply to emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by wildcard11 on April 5, 2006, at 6:00:16
((((((((((((((((wildcard)))))))))))))))))
dunno what to say
but i luv you
sory :-(
Posted by wildcard11 on April 5, 2006, at 9:43:11
In reply to Re: emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by special_k on April 5, 2006, at 8:03:08
Posted by Dinah on April 5, 2006, at 10:08:35
In reply to emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by wildcard11 on April 5, 2006, at 6:00:16
Families are so hard. Why can't they just listen to our advice? It would save them so much pain.
But until your brother is ready to put up strong boundaries, he'll probably experience pain, and all you can do is be there for him to support him, while trying not to get sucked in.
Or at least that's how it works in my family.
Posted by Kath on April 5, 2006, at 10:13:27
In reply to emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by wildcard11 on April 5, 2006, at 6:00:16
((((((((((((((((you)))))))))))))))
I'm so sorry you're going through this.
How old is your brother?
Please know that Al-Anon & Nar-Anon are really strong & caring support groups to help the families of addicts. Also Co-Dependants Anonymous.
Best of luck for you. Kath
Posted by gardenergirl on April 5, 2006, at 14:08:38
In reply to Re: emotionally overwhelmed *trigger* » wildcard11, posted by Kath on April 5, 2006, at 10:13:27
Oh, Dinah's right. Try not to get sucked in. That's so hard, but it's so much healthier to offer what support you can and to maintain your boundaries. But dang it's hard with family and others you care about.
And yes, it does feel so overwhelming, frustrating, anger-provoking, helpless, etc. At least I've felt those feelings about family before. Grrr. It helps me to take some deep breaths and try to get some distance. Talking to my husband about it helps, too, because he doesn't tend to get sucked in, and he can help me see when I am.
At any rate, sending warm thoughts and comforting energy your way.
Take care,
gg
Posted by Phillipa on April 5, 2006, at 16:58:17
In reply to Re: emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by gardenergirl on April 5, 2006, at 14:08:38
Wildcard did you get the committment papers yet? Will they use that same place we talked about or jail? Love Phillipa
Posted by Damos on April 5, 2006, at 17:03:17
In reply to emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by wildcard11 on April 5, 2006, at 6:00:16
((((((((((Wildcard))))))))))
Family stuff is hard, sorry, can't add anything to the wise words of Dinah and GG.
Cry as much as you need to, and please take good care of you.
Posted by Outsider on April 5, 2006, at 22:21:46
In reply to Re: emotionally overwhelmed *trigger* » wildcard11, posted by Damos on April 5, 2006, at 17:03:17
I got involved in a family situation too deep trying to help my sister because I felt the same way. It back fired on me... I was so dumbfounded, alls I meant to do was help. It has been over a year and I am still deeply hurt and I don't think my sister and I will ever have the same relationship.
The advice to be supportive but keep boudaries was very good. I wish someone would have given me that advice. Becareful, I wish you the best.
Outsider
Posted by wildcard11 on April 6, 2006, at 11:34:37
In reply to Re: emotionally overwhelmed *trigger*, posted by Outsider on April 5, 2006, at 22:21:46
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