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Posted by All Done on November 8, 2005, at 17:14:17
Maybe this belongs on the grief board, but I figure anyone can do a ten for anyone else, whether they're with us or not. Or for themselves, of course. I'd love to see those.
1. He was one of the kindest people I’ve ever known.2. He was the first person I talked to when I left my first husband. He supported my decision without question. And he told me everything was going to be okay. He was right.
3. When I was young, he got me to believe that he did some sort of magic to get the traffic light to change from red to green.
4. His easygoing nature and gentle blue eyes.
5. He read the newspaper to me every morning when I was too young to read it on my own. Slightly edited for a young person’s ears, of course.
6. Our late night talks at the kitchen table through high school and college.
7. He shared all his books with me.
8. He spent the better half of his adult life doing volunteer work. He really taught me how to care about others.
9. The way he adored my son.
10. The way he held my hand and told me he loved me before he died.
Posted by Annierose on November 8, 2005, at 18:53:01
In reply to A ten for my dad, posted by All Done on November 8, 2005, at 17:14:17
That was very thoughtful Laurie. Your dad sounds like a very special person. I'm so glad that he was able to meet your son. He is probably his guardian angel.
p.s. I was married briefly before too, I like to think of it as a "starter marriage" ... same concept as a starter home.
Posted by gardenergirl on November 8, 2005, at 21:32:53
In reply to A ten for my dad, posted by All Done on November 8, 2005, at 17:14:17
That was a beautiful ten. Sounds like you two had a very special relationship. Sounds like he was a special man who raised a kind and loving daughter.
(((Laurie)))
gg
Posted by Phillipa on November 8, 2005, at 23:10:47
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad » All Done, posted by gardenergirl on November 8, 2005, at 21:32:53
Sorry about your loss. And I'll bet your son misses him also. He will always be in your heart. Fondly,phillipa
Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2005, at 8:21:49
In reply to A ten for my dad, posted by All Done on November 8, 2005, at 17:14:17
What a beautiful list. I can see how such a special man would raise such a special daughter.
Your list also brought back warm memories of the father of one of my best friends. Such a wonderful man he was.
Posted by All Done on November 9, 2005, at 21:35:01
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad » All Done, posted by Annierose on November 8, 2005, at 18:53:01
> That was very thoughtful Laurie. Your dad sounds like a very special person. I'm so glad that he was able to meet your son. He is probably his guardian angel.
Thanks, Annierose. I'm trying to make sure I tell N just how special his grandpa was. And for the most part, he accepts my answers to all his questions (like, "where is grandpa?") at face value, but he does want to know why there are no phones in Heaven. I didn't know how to answer, but I told him I wish there were phones there, too. :)
> p.s. I was married briefly before too, I like to think of it as a "starter marriage" ... same concept as a starter home.
I'll tell you, I wouldn't exactly recommend a starter marriage like I would a starter home, but I learned more about myself than I ever would have imagined from that experience. I swear it's why I have such a good marriage, now. I really figured out what I want, need, and deserve in a partner. And maybe I figured out a bit about what I need from myself, but I'm still working on that one. ;)
Posted by All Done on November 9, 2005, at 21:36:15
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad » All Done, posted by gardenergirl on November 8, 2005, at 21:32:53
You're so sweet, (((gg))).
Thanks. :)
Posted by All Done on November 9, 2005, at 21:39:13
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad, posted by Phillipa on November 8, 2005, at 23:10:47
> Sorry about your loss. And I'll bet your son misses him also. He will always be in your heart. Fondly,phillipa
Thank you, phillipa.
You're right that he will always be in my heart. My son was only five months old when my dad died, though, so I'm trying to make sure he's in N's heart, too.
Posted by All Done on November 9, 2005, at 21:50:41
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad » All Done, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2005, at 8:21:49
> What a beautiful list. I can see how such a special man would raise such a special daughter.
> Your list also brought back warm memories of the father of one of my best friends. Such a wonderful man he was.
Thank you, (((Dinah))).
I'm glad I could bring back some good memories for you, too. One of my best friends (for thirty years, now) called me yesterday to let me know she was thinking about my dad. He was more of a dad to her than her own. I love that he was so special to her, too. Maybe because we are the same age, we both saw him in the same way, so it was really nice talking to her.
Still kinda hurts, though. :(
Posted by sal0805 on November 10, 2005, at 14:52:30
In reply to A ten for my dad, posted by All Done on November 8, 2005, at 17:14:17
All Done, your post is very, very special.
Your Dad must have been so absolutely proud of you!
I lost my Dad - today - one year ago, and I was not close to him - but that did not change the way I felt when he died - or the way I have felt and thought about him since then.
No. 10 really touched me - I got to do that for my Dad - he was in a coma - but I know he heard me and felt it - and when he took his last breath - I had the honor of being there.
Thank you for sharing.
Sabrina
Posted by All Done on November 11, 2005, at 10:52:22
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad » All Done, posted by sal0805 on November 10, 2005, at 14:52:30
> All Done, your post is very, very special.
>
> Your Dad must have been so absolutely proud of you!Thank you, Sabrina.
> I lost my Dad - today - one year ago, and I was not close to him - but that did not change the way I felt when he died - or the way I have felt and thought about him since then.
>
> No. 10 really touched me - I got to do that for my Dad - he was in a coma - but I know he heard me and felt it - and when he took his last breath - I had the honor of being there.
>
> Thank you for sharing.
>
> SabrinaIt's nice that you feel it was an honor to be there. I'm glad you could be there for him and I'm glad I was with my dad, too. Three years later, though, I'm having a difficult time getting those images out of my head. I want to remember him as a strong, healthy man. I think, in time my memories will change. It's just a slow process for me, I guess.
Take care, ((((Sabrina)))).
Laurie
Posted by gardenergirl on November 11, 2005, at 15:35:35
In reply to Re: A ten for my dad » All Done, posted by sal0805 on November 10, 2005, at 14:52:30
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