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Posted by Emme on October 27, 2003, at 8:28:27
Hello.
To her credit, my father's wife is really trying to understand. But the other week, she said that she thought that 80 to 95% of my problems would go away if I found a nice guy. I told her that I had no doubt that a supportive partner would be great, but that it was not a panacea. I told her about a few friends who have really good marriages and suffer from mood disrders all the same. So she agreed that that put a damper on her theory. Anyway, you gotta love how people come up with simplistic solutions to a complex illness.
Now if I could only find the man....
I had a date last night. Semi blind. We had e-mailed and talked on the phone. Actually, I had tortured myself this weekend by going to see my mother. So I was in a bad mood, but I managed to go on the date, where I babbled stupidly. He was nice enough but kind of serious and I'm not sure how much we have in common. We shook hands goodnight (does anyone else do this...?) I'm not sure if we'll get together again. At worst, I could consider it practice.
I woke up this morning in the abyss yet again. I'm trying to push it off and work on a manuscript but geez my brain is fuzzy and refusing to work. So my plan is to work on it all day hoping that that'll be the equivalent of 2 hours of quality working. How does that sound?
That's all the news that's fit to write.
Emme
Posted by justyourlaugh on October 27, 2003, at 9:51:35
In reply to All you need is love (hum to Beatles tune), posted by Emme on October 27, 2003, at 8:28:27
emme,,
my social worker said that i "created" this illness when i was a wee child because i didnt have healthy ways of dealing with things...
i feel he passed me a plate of guilt and a big glass of shame...:(
will a man heal my past?
j
Posted by Emme on October 27, 2003, at 14:47:21
In reply to Re: All you need is love (hum to Beatles tune) » Emme, posted by justyourlaugh on October 27, 2003, at 9:51:35
> emme,,
> my social worker said that i "created" this illness when i was a wee child because i didnt have healthy ways of dealing with things...
> i feel he passed me a plate of guilt and a big glass of shame...:(Ewwww....retroactively condemned as a little kid. I hope you didn't stay with him long.
I do find that I'm always on the alert worrying that people will pass judgment on me. I may be a little paranoid about it. At least my father's wife was willing to revise her theory. A few weeks ago she said she understood how I feel - this without any evidence that she's ever had a major depression. Tough times yes, but mood disorder no. She means well.
> will a man heal my past?
Hmm... not totally heal the past, but maybe help the present. Extra companionship, extra distraction, and a little romance can't hurt. Of course I know a man can't remove my problems and I know the depression needs to be under enough control for me to even interact with someone.
Okay, I'm rambling. I went to the library today and sat down and worked for a few hours. Now I have to follow my therapist's orders and pat myself on the back. :)
Emme
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