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Posted by oracle on September 13, 2002, at 18:16:38
In reply to Re: BOB PBC: Mistah Kurtz, He Dead. pls Read. » oracle, posted by kid a on September 13, 2002, at 12:06:37
Thats who I am... And I dont think adding a source reference does much of anything if you aren't even familiar with the source.
If people do not know what quotes mean they missed
something in school.Conrad lived in another time, I cannot judge him with present day morals.
Posted by kid a on September 13, 2002, at 19:44:42
In reply to Re: one case for citing the written word... » kid a, posted by Tabitha Ðòñë ƒ£îþþëÐ on September 13, 2002, at 15:16:24
>For instance, if you post the words of a psychotic murderous character, some people might think the words are your own, and that there's a psychotic murderous Babbler in our midst.
i do thank you for reading, but perhaps you've shown me as who i am... maybe thats the disease in me... i think im bad, so i want these bad things to be associated with me... something in me wants to horrify, to be punished.
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:12:20
In reply to Re: BOB PBC: Mistah Kurtz, He Dead. pls Read. » oracle, posted by kid a on September 13, 2002, at 12:06:37
> I truly do not get your advise to "try to accept things that you cannot change" in this context, finding it incredibly demeaning and disturbing that any negative feedback distresses you so. It reveals a determination to be totally closed-minded.
I apologize (especially to IsoM), I did put that too strongly. Sorry if I disappointed.
> I don't understand how a man compassionate enough to set up a board to support people with depression, can lack such simple courtesy as to tell people basically to "shut up" regarding decisions they think you have handled badly. I also find it sort of tackless than when someone praises you for your administrative skills or your generousity, you write a thank you post back to them. I find it offensive because, and only because, you so discourage negative feedback and yet you shamelessly acknowledge positive feedback only.
>
> ShelliI don't mean to discourage all negative feedback. I do, however, think that repeated negative feedback from the same people about the same issues not only takes us away from the primary goals of this site, but, realistically, is unlikely to change my mind (of stone :-).
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> Does providing a source for the material immediately explain it? I would say for some people no...
>
> Dog, son of manI agree; that's why I also snuck in "or an exegesis". :-)
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020725/msgs/7373.html
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:16:47
In reply to BOB PBC: Mistah Kurtz, He Dead. pls Read., posted by kid a on September 11, 2002, at 19:26:46
> [Posted by BeardedLady on September 11, 2002, at 12:00:46
>
> In reply to http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020908/msgs/30134.html]
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:17:38
In reply to you are quite unbelieveable. » Dr. Bob « BL, posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:16:47
> [Posted by ~Alii~ on September 11, 2002, at 16:58:47]
>
> > ...seems like this slippery slope continues to get more and more nonsensical in what is considered civil.
> >
> > BeardedLady,
> >
> > I hear your words loud and clear and await kid_A's return from his trip for him to see how his post has been targeted far after the original posting date.
> >
> > Do you think that archieved posts are the next to be gleaned through for incivility?!
> >
> > ~~alii with incredulity as the days tick by
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:18:44
In reply to What will be targeted next? Dark poetry? « ~Alii~, posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:17:38
> [Posted by BeardedLady on September 11, 2002, at 17:35:02]
>
> > I think that Kid's post was chosen because Dr. Bob still does not, after all this time, know us. Dinah wouldn't have thought to PBC that post, as nothing about it was uncivil. We all know that KidA frequently posts quotes--interesting quotes, at that—to remind us of poignient things. That happened to be a FAMOUS line from Apocolypse Now, not a line about killing anyone. But Dr. Bob has not shown us to be as thoughtful about issuing PBCs as we are about remaining civil.
> >
> > It is, once again, time to discontinue posting here. The rules are interpreted to broadly and without attention to the intention of the posters. I'm tired of it.
> >
> > beardy
Posted by Tabitha Ðòñë ƒ£îþþëÐ on September 13, 2002, at 23:59:13
In reply to Re: one case for citing the written word..., posted by kid a on September 13, 2002, at 19:44:42
Naw, you're not bad or horrifying, you're just an art-loving kid trying to make sense of himself.
Posted by oracle on September 14, 2002, at 3:58:48
In reply to Re: quotes (and apology » IsoM), posted by Dr. Bob on September 13, 2002, at 20:12:20
I do, however, think that repeated negative feedback from the same people about the same issues not only takes us away from the primary goals of this site, but, realistically, is unlikely to change my mind (of stone :-).
It is a 2 way street. We see it as having valid points that you (Dr. Bob) will not acknowledge.
Posted by BeardedLady on September 14, 2002, at 11:40:31
In reply to Re: quotes (and apology, posted by oracle on September 14, 2002, at 3:58:48
Don't put people down. Folks posting in protest of blocks or PBCs are not giving negative feedback; they're giving POSITIVE feedback—in support of those who were UNFAIRLY blocked.
As oracle says, it IS a two-way street, and we could just as easily say there's a negative administration here, always looking for the bad in people and ASSUMING it before assuming the good.
When in doubt about what someone means, ASK. Don't just jump to a conclusion about someone (which is against site rules anyhow) that he means us all to kill pigs or men because he quoted a famous movie or work of literature.
Dr. Bob assumed the bad when he blocked Colin for a pun, and he assumed the bad when he gave a PBC to KidA for a quote that he didn't understand.
And it matters not who gives feedback in protest. It has been Dinah. It has been Shar. It has been Mair. And it has been Iso, Wendy, Oracle, KidA, Alii, Beardy, and almost everyone on the board--heck, even Greg! And only sometimes it's the same people. In Colin's case, it was EVERYONE.
We already know that nothing is likely to change your "mind of stone," and putting smiley faces next to a statement like that doesn't make that sad fact cute or funny or even palatable.
I guess what so many of us want to know is WHY? Why do you have a mind of stone? Why can't you EVER change your decision, especially when it's wrong?
This is supposed to be a mental health education and support site. Why shouldn't its moderator exhibit the healthy ability to correct his mistakes and admit his humanity?
beardy
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 14, 2002, at 16:51:55
In reply to DR. BOB—NEGATIVE FEEDBACK? PBC., posted by BeardedLady on September 14, 2002, at 11:40:31
> It is a 2 way street. We see it as having valid points that you (Dr. Bob) will not acknowledge.
>
> oracleSorry, I don't meant to imply that your points aren't valid. I think we both have valid points, but sometimes a decision needs to be made one way or the other.
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> Folks posting in protest of blocks or PBCs are not giving negative feedback; they're giving POSITIVE feedback—in support of those who were UNFAIRLY blocked.
>
> beardyI know, but sometimes I forget. Sorry, I'll try harder to remember. Carry on...
Bob
Posted by mashogr8 on September 14, 2002, at 18:37:24
In reply to Re: valid points, posted by Dr. Bob on September 14, 2002, at 16:51:55
I am probably as well read as some of you, but one of the banes of my existence is an inability to identify or even remember famous quotes (unless they are from Nathan Hale, Patrick Henry and Abraham Lincoln). I think that most of you identify your personal works. I'd appreciate an acknowledgement of the sources of the quotes you use. I'm probably the one person in the whole universe and outer galaxy who for some reason or another has never seen "Apocalypse Now" I have seen Deep Throat and lalughed so hard I would never remember any of that dialogue either. Oh well, that's just me.
If I know the source of a quote and that it is a quote I might check it out. Thanks.
MA
Posted by BeardedLady on September 14, 2002, at 19:14:20
In reply to Quotes, posted by mashogr8 on September 14, 2002, at 18:37:24
I don't think it makes any difference. If KidA had put the source of his quote following the quote, it would have had the same civility as the quote without the source. Adding a source doesn't make it civil; it merely makes it accessible.
If you really want to know what someone is talking about and what the source of the quote is, ASK! Or do a google search. If you don't care, that's great, too! Not every post is going to appeal to every poster.
Lots of people post hellos to each other or talk about things that others may not have followed. Should they be required to explain, for those who may have decided to peek at the post, all the events leading up to their post?
I like the posts without the source. It's like a quiz. It tests my memory and my knowledge. And if I don't know it, I can look it up.
beardy
Posted by Susang on September 14, 2002, at 21:32:59
In reply to Re: one case for citing the written word... » kid a, posted by Tabitha Ðòñë ƒ£îþþëÐ on September 13, 2002, at 15:16:24
I agree with you, Tabitha, about citing sources so that the reader can tell the difference between thoughts and feelings expressed by the actual poster and those of some other author. I realize the poster is selecting a quote for a specific reason but it helps to know that the exact words and sentiments are the author's. Feeling the emotions expressed by a particular passage could be very different from owning the words and actions described. Just MHO.
Posted by mashogr8 on September 14, 2002, at 21:59:57
In reply to sources of quotes » mashogr8, posted by BeardedLady on September 14, 2002, at 19:14:20
Bearded Lady,
I must be running out of patience these days. I would like to have the source or even the identification that "it" is a quote so I can seek out further information. It has absolutely nothing to do with civility, just information. When there are no sources cited or even the semblance of a quote, I get very confused which may drive you to distraction, sorry. Maybe you could post you figured it out so I could ask for the citation. I enjoy word games probably as much as you do. I'm definitately not as wide read as you but I wouldn't mind trying to catch up with your knowledge.
Without the hint that it is a quote from a speech, play or piece of literature I have no idea that I should do a google search. Actually, I never think about using google to find something out. Thanks for the idea.
A lot of times I don't know that this is a quote I can ask about or search. Would it really be that difficult to give ME a clue?
Peace and have a great, happy day, free from the aggravation of ignorant people.
MA
Posted by shar on September 15, 2002, at 3:04:01
In reply to Quotes, posted by mashogr8 on September 14, 2002, at 18:37:24
I agree with mash that knowing the source of a quote, or that something IS a quote is helpful. To cite a quote's source, for PSB, needn't be an excrutiatingly bibliographical entry. A simple identification such as "XYZ movie" or "attributed to Jane Austen" is fine, in my opinion. It can be very casual, even something like "I think soandso said this." I do this at times due to my Swiss cheese memory.
First, identifying the originator of a quote helps me understand to whom the credit belongs (I believe in a certain amount of precision in giving credit where credit is due). Second, I understand that it is not original material from the poster, and it would not make sense to heap praise on the poster for thinking it up. Finally, it puts the remark in context for the post, such as making it clear that the poster is using it as a 'jumping off point' if that is the case.
[Knowing, after the fact, that the killing quote came from Apocalypse Now (a movie I love but have only seen twice in about 20 years) was doubly interesting, as I didn't recognize it from there at all. I may want to see that movie again now.]
I also believe people should take credit for their own work, so when we quote them in the future we can attribute it correctly (I mean this in the most positive way--there is a ton of creativity on this board).
Shar
> I am probably as well read as some of you, but one of the banes of my existence is an inability to identify or even remember famous quotes (unless they are from Nathan Hale, Patrick Henry and Abraham Lincoln). I think that most of you identify your personal works. I'd appreciate an acknowledgement of the sources of the quotes you use. I'm probably the one person in the whole universe and outer galaxy who for some reason or another has never seen "Apocalypse Now" I have seen Deep Throat and lalughed so hard I would never remember any of that dialogue either. Oh well, that's just me.
>
> If I know the source of a quote and that it is a quote I might check it out. Thanks.
>
> MA
Posted by BeardedLady on September 15, 2002, at 5:56:58
In reply to Re: sources of quotes/bearded lady, posted by mashogr8 on September 14, 2002, at 21:59:57
> Peace and have a great, happy day, free from the aggravation of ignorant people.
You are neither, and my comment was on your post but was directed to Dr. Bob. The PBC is what is ignorant.
> Without the hint that it is a quote from a speech, play or piece of literature I have no idea that I should do a google search.
I guess I take it for granted that everyone can tell when someone's post is his own. I deal with plagiarism all the time, so I am used to scrutinizing strings of words.
Since none of us on the board is named, to my knowledge, Mistuh Kurtz, I knew it had to be from a book or movie. And I also know KidA's style from posting, and I know what words he spells wrong, too! So when I see something that's not his style, I just know it.
And although I am against plagiarism of any form, Kid *usually* acknowledges the author at the bottom, unless he wants us to guess.
So I play, and I like to play. I do understand where you're coming from, and sometimes it's hard to get when you have your own baggage.
I apologize to you.
One guy on PB, Martin somebody (I'm too tired to look), posted an absolute theft of someone else's idea without attributing it. That was truly plagiarism--passing off someone else's thoughts as his own.
I really do believe that Kid's posts are enigmatic. Sometimes I'm right about his purpose, and sometimes I'm not. But I like it all the same.
beardyu
Posted by NikkiT2 on September 15, 2002, at 7:59:18
In reply to Re: valid points, posted by Dr. Bob on September 14, 2002, at 16:51:55
I didn't know where Kid a's statement came from and I didn't like it.. it felt.. I dunno... uncomfortable to me. Yes, I've seen the film years ago and hated it... just a simple line of where these quotes come from really isn't too much is it?
We all have to work together to make this the site we want, and something like this is where WE can work to help...
Nikki
Posted by kid a on September 15, 2002, at 9:07:12
In reply to Re: valid points, posted by NikkiT2 on September 15, 2002, at 7:59:18
first, i abhore plagerism, so you can be sure that whenever i post something that isnt written by me, i'll place it in quotations...on usually any part of poetry i'll cite the author etc...
however... okay, lets say i give the source, i've also been asked to give a brief explanation...
now, i know some people read my posts, some dont, thats okay by me... but its tiresome and extraneous to give an explanation for every single thing that gets posted... its almost as if its easier just to be chatty and 'hey howya doin?' than post something more in depth... you're required to nurse the reader along so they dont get the wrong idea or feel bad...
one poster who we all remember posted his own para-religion and when asked for explanations never once gave any to what he had written, just more words seemingly pulled from air as well as a cross section of other religions mashed together put through a blender and then liquified for epicac purposes...
One example, then I'll leave you all alone, lets take the quote:
"Well then Ill fit you, Hieronymo's mad againe"
...okay, lets source it to T.S. Eliot, from "What the Thunder Said", from the poem The Wastelands;
however, Eliot took the line from a subtitle of Thomas Kyd's "Spanish Tradgedy", and for specific reasons...
Here is a whole page's worth of analysis on it:
http://www.cwrl.utexas.edu/~mallinic/critical_tools/e314l_spring_2001/annotator/eliot/472_Why_then_Ile_fit_you__Hieronymo_s_mad_againe__.htmland that is just for ONE single line of poetry.
Posted by BeardedLady on September 15, 2002, at 9:23:32
In reply to quotes, soruces, exegesis, etc..., posted by kid a on September 15, 2002, at 9:07:12
You are brilliant, Kid, but your spelling is atrocious!
Posted by kid a on September 15, 2002, at 9:33:22
In reply to Get thee to a dictionary! » kid a, posted by BeardedLady on September 15, 2002, at 9:23:32
...you are my spelling+grammar mommie.
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 15, 2002, at 12:40:12
In reply to apology to you! » mashogr8, posted by BeardedLady on September 15, 2002, at 5:56:58
> The PBC is what is ignorant.
Different points of view are fine, and in fact encouraged, but please don't post anything that could lead others to feel put down. Last time I blocked you from posting for 1 week, so this time it's for 2.
Bob
Posted by Dr. Bob on September 15, 2002, at 12:44:51
In reply to quotes, soruces, exegesis, etc..., posted by kid a on September 15, 2002, at 9:07:12
> one poster who we all remember posted his own para-religion and when asked for explanations never once gave any to what he had written, just more words seemingly pulled from air as well as a cross section of other religions mashed together put through a blender and then liquified for epicac purposes...
No one has to like what others post, but please don't post anything yourself that could lead them to feel accused or put down. I've asked you to be civil before, so this time I'm going to block you from posting for a week.
Bob
Posted by trouble on September 15, 2002, at 18:19:03
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob and Warnings, posted by ShelliR on September 11, 2002, at 22:02:56
> I don't know, Dr. Bob.
>
> You've gotten more and more petty re warnings and blocks. When we all wait to be totally uncontroversial, we miss great opportunities of expression. You're gonna eventually have to call this board Pollyanna's Psychobabble.
>
> Re kid a's warning: if you're not sure what a post even means, perhaps you should err on the side of trusting that the poster has meant no harm. (sort of like tennis: if a ball is too close to the line for the linesperson to see clearly, he/she is supposed to call the ball in, rather than out. I think that rule is there for a reason; and I think you could probably learn something from that tradition.)
>
> I am noticing lately a very busy PSB; however, the number of *posters* looks to be very limited. Could just be timing, but it does appear to me that you censor many of the more creative and therefore, perhaps controversial posters. The personality kids. (Maybe you need a creativity consult; like what is creative, opposed to offensive).
>
> On a different note, I hope you had a fun and/or relaxing vacation.
>
> Shelli
>
> hey shelli this is brilliant, me and my b/f thebasil were just talking about my relationship with dr.bob and it hasn't sunk in yet but will try to share what he said then maybe thebasil will come on and fix my interpretation, anyway he said dr.bob has offered us this forum consisting of 26 letters of the alphabet, we get all 26 letters, cool. then i come along and discover that the vowels can take all kinds of different shapes of means and expression, the letter "a" can sound like long a or short a or ahhhh, and the "ough" in words can be different too, like in "ought" and for godssakes "enough!"
both dr. bob and i think we are sticking to the rules and being consistent, and neither one of us can quite understand the position of the other.
i get it, i think.trouble
Posted by trouble on September 15, 2002, at 18:35:45
In reply to Re: one case for citing the written word... » kid a, posted by Tabitha Ðòñë ƒ£îþþëÐ on September 13, 2002, at 15:16:24
> Kid A,
>
> First let me say I enjoy your posts, even without sources, since they're always beautifully written excerpts of whatever they are. Dark subjects don't disturb me personally. I can see though how having a source might make them less potentially disturbing to others, even if someone is not familiar with the source. For instance, if you post the words of a psychotic murderous character, some people might think the words are your own, and that there's a psychotic murderous Babbler in our midst.>> With a source though, it's obviously a quote from something.
actually this is one reason literate people don't include sources, which allows the listener to put the thought in a neat little box marked "oh that."
trouble
Posted by trouble on September 15, 2002, at 18:46:49
In reply to Yes, Let us have Citations for Quotes, posted by shar on September 15, 2002, at 3:04:01
> I agree with mash that knowing the source of a quote, or that something IS a quote is helpful. To cite a quote's source, for PSB, needn't be an excrutiatingly bibliographical entry. A simple identification such as "XYZ movie" or "attributed to Jane Austen" is fine, in my opinion. It can be very casual, even something like "I think soandso said this." I do this at times due to my Swiss cheese memory.
>
> First, identifying the originator of a quote helps me understand to whom the credit belongs (I believe in a certain amount of precision in giving credit where credit is due). Second, I understand that it is not original material from the poster, and it would not make sense to heap praise on the poster for thinking it up. Finally, it puts the remark in context for the post, such as making it clear that the poster is using it as a 'jumping off point' if that is the case.
>
> [Knowing, after the fact, that the killing quote came from Apocalypse Now (a movie I love but have only seen twice in about 20 years) was doubly interesting, as I didn't recognize it from there at all. I may want to see that movie again now.]
>
> I also believe people should take credit for their own work, so when we quote them in the future we can attribute it correctly (I mean this in the most positive way--there is a ton of creativity on this board).
>
> Shar
>
>
> > I am probably as well read as some of you, but one of the banes of my existence is an inability to identify or even remember famous quotes (unless they are from Nathan Hale, Patrick Henry and Abraham Lincoln). I think that most of you identify your personal works. I'd appreciate an acknowledgement of the sources of the quotes you use. I'm probably the one person in the whole universe and outer galaxy who for some reason or another has never seen "Apocalypse Now" I have seen Deep Throat and lalughed so hard I would never remember any of that dialogue either. Oh well, that's just me.
> >
> > If I know the source of a quote and that it is a quote I might check it out. Thanks.
> >
> > MA
>
> again, this defeats the purpose of citing the quote in the first place, these ruminations run far afield of the original intent of citing the quote, which in my work is to stop you dead and make you think. BTW most creators are flattered to see their one-liners enter uncredited into the zeitgist, or as Dr. Phil might say-
ya think?trouble
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