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Posted by Racer on August 31, 2005, at 10:56:15
It's more and more clear that a big part of the problem is the lack of meaningful support I'm getting at home. While Mr X periodically SAYS something about me being more attractive now, or looking sick before, or not being fat, the only physical contact we have is hugging standing up. To me, that says that he's actively avoiding physical intimacy with me.
More to the point, though, I really need something more than that -- especially right now. I've gained more weight, and am freaking the [warm place] out. The past few days, I've had this feeling that I may as well just give up, lie down in a hole somewhere and just wait for it all to be over. My body repulses me, and apparently my husband as well.
I know, but I'm crying as I write this, and basically feeling [insert word of choice here]. Part of me wants to fill my face with good tasting food, but a bigger part doesn't see the point in eating at all, and I don't feel hungry enough to bother.
Make it go away. Or make me beautiful and desired. Or, alternately, make me pregnant, so that at least one of my lifelong dreams comes true.
Posted by NikkiT2 on August 31, 2005, at 11:40:13
In reply to Ugh. I'm just not liking any of this..., posted by Racer on August 31, 2005, at 10:56:15
Oh sweetheart *hugs you really tight* Sorry I've not been around, mad mad mad mad week.. an update will ensure soon I promise..
I want to wave my magic wand and make it all OK.. I've seen a photo of you, and you *are* gorgeous.. And your insides are even more wonderful in my opinion.
I know this is a cliche, but have you told your hubbie how you feel? I'm sure you know, when you examine it completely logically theres probably a whole other reason for the lack of intamacy.. But only he can tell you.
Wish I could make it all perfect hun.. I really do
Nikki xx
Posted by shar on September 6, 2005, at 20:47:49
In reply to Re: Ugh. I'm just not liking any of this... » Racer, posted by NikkiT2 on August 31, 2005, at 11:40:13
R--
If you feel like the first part of this thread...then maybe (just, maybe) you don't want a child just now! Having been a mom at 18, and in not-so-good shape, I can relate. (I'm 53 now.)Also, relationships go through stages or ups-and-downs, good times and bad times. It doesn't mean "no hope" it just means "maybe not right now."
Don't give up the ship. If there is enough there (between you and him) to hug standing up, then there is something there. And, depending on you AND him, that can change. So....don't give up.
(BTW, according to Shar's rule, you're not yet old enough to give up, Little Missy!!)
xoxo
Shar
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