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Posted by noa on March 9, 2004, at 18:59:28
Shar, I'm worried about you. What else can I say? I'm pained at the idea that your pain is so great right now that you are considering ending your life. Shar, we need you and you are such a wonderful person. Shar, I want you to have hope and seek out more/better care to alleviate the despair. Shar, please don't go.
Posted by Racer on March 9, 2004, at 20:05:40
In reply to ({({({({SHAR})})})}), posted by noa on March 9, 2004, at 18:59:28
I need you right now. I need everyone here, but you've always helped me so much, even when your own pain must have been overwhelming to you, and I need you to be here with me. You make a difference in the quality of my life.
If that doesn't mean enough, think about my cat. He needs you to help me take care of him. He's a big monster of a cat, nearly 20 pounds even sick, and he has a watery eye from a herpes infection that breaks out when he's stressed. He's a good looking fellow, and very smart. When we lived alone, he would get into bed with me and purr me to sleep at night. Cuddle right down under the covers to purr to me until I fell asleep. If I woke up in the night, he'd come back and curl up and start purring again, usually after a big sigh as if he were just doing his job and why didn't I make it easier for him by staying asleep? He's afraid of wind storms, and used to wake me up when one happened. I'd have to take him and a pillow down to the sofa, and hold him while he shook. Eventually, I'd be able to manouver around so that I could get my head on the pillow to doze without letting him go. He loves Ruffles BBQ potato chips, and will run from anywhere in the house if he hears a chip bag opening. We used to eat ice cream bars together, much to my ex-boyfriend's dismay. That's a little bit about the cat who needs you, about what makes him special.
Besides, I know a little secret about you, Shar, that I doubt even you are fully cognizant of: you're not the problem, you're just living with some impossible stressors in your life. You, yourself, are a wonderful person with great skills and even better qualities. It may seem as though having all those good points, life should be easier, but it doesn't work that way. But that's a fault in our world, not a fault in you. If you have any faults, it's more like the veins in a marble sculpture. The lack of absolute perfection in every element often adds to the beauty of the work as a whole. And you'll have to argue pretty strenuously to convince me that you have any faults, my dear. You've never shown them to me.
Maybe this doesn't help at all, but you are valued by others. Maybe it's selfish of me to want you to be aware of it, but I do want you to know how much you mean to me. I hope it helps, and wish there were more I could do.
My heart is with you, dear one.
Posted by shar on March 9, 2004, at 21:35:22
In reply to ({({({({SHAR})})})}), posted by noa on March 9, 2004, at 18:59:28
Thank you so very much for thinking of me. Things are crumbling, and it takes so long! I am still here, and intend to hang on. I won't let go of my 'out' but I also do not want to worry anyone.
Your generous sentiments mean a lot to me, mi compadre.
xoxo
Shar
Posted by coral on March 10, 2004, at 9:42:24
In reply to ({({({({SHAR})})})}), posted by noa on March 9, 2004, at 18:59:28
Dearest Shar,
Your words of wisdom helped me through many, many battles and very selfishly, I want to ALWAYS know you're there! My therapist says that I'm better about getting my needs met - and this is an example- telling you that you're my oldest and dearest friend on psycho and ....hmmmmm rereading that..sounds a little weird LOL anyway... remember Lumptonia. We have permanent passes to go there whenever we want. It's safe there.
My heart aches for your pain and I also understand the desire to know there's an out, if you should so decide. The option was always very helpful for me during the darkest days when I was being devoured by cellar demons.
xoxoxoox
(((((((((((((Shar)))))))))))))))
Coral
Posted by noa on March 11, 2004, at 18:20:35
In reply to Re: ({({({({SHAR})})})}) » noa, posted by shar on March 9, 2004, at 21:35:22
Shar, Thank you for checking in. I really appreciate it. Like Coral said, I have selfish reasons to see you get better and stick around.
I admire your courage in hanging on despite the difficulty.
Posted by Greg on March 12, 2004, at 20:47:03
In reply to Re: ({({({({SHAR})})})}) » shar, posted by noa on March 11, 2004, at 18:20:35
MIC, I'm so glad I got to talk to you. It definitely wasn't how I intended for the conversation to go, but I never was very good at planning things. It was so good to hear your voice, the "Texas Drawl of Reason". Next time I get to hold the kleenex. You ever consider being a therapist?
I don't know how often you'll hear this, thank you for being you.
Love you sweetie,
Greg
Posted by Greg on March 12, 2004, at 20:48:24
In reply to Re: ({({({({SHAR})})})}) » noa, posted by Greg on March 12, 2004, at 20:47:03
Posted by shar on March 12, 2004, at 23:03:10
In reply to Re: ({({({({SHAR})})})}) » noa, posted by Greg on March 12, 2004, at 20:47:03
Noa, Racer, Greg, Allison, Coral...oh, thank you so much!
Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts. I need everything I can get.
For the Lumptonians among us, thank you for going 'back to the future.'
And, Greg, how sweet of you to pop up just when I need you!!
xoxoxo
Shar
Posted by Racer on March 13, 2004, at 9:47:54
In reply to Thank you all..., posted by shar on March 12, 2004, at 23:03:10
I can't speak for anyone else, but I know I'm only writing to you because you mean so much to me. Besides, who but our Queen can protect us from the Cellar Demons of Lumptonia? I, personally, serve my Gracious Queen with loyalty and pride.
I do hope you're taking good care of yourself, so that you can continue your reign over us. A more excellent and gracious Majesty we Lumptonians will never know.
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