Posted by TamaraJ on April 26, 2005, at 21:37:32
In reply to Drinking (what else?), posted by just so sad on April 26, 2005, at 9:58:32
It's hard because until you truly accept the fact that you are not just your average social drinker who can stop at one glass of wine or one beer or one jd, you will continue to drink in excess or feel guilty everytime you have a drink or two. Sure, you can control your drinking when you put your mind to it, but then you have one and think "Oh well, I have had one so I have already blown it, I may as well have another, and another". At least that was the way it was with me. Controlling it didn't work because as soon as I had proved to myself I could control it, I went to town again, until the next time I decided it was time for a break and some measure of control. So, I guess you have to look deep inside and ask yourself why you drink, what void does it fill, why you want to stop (for you and your health, both physical and mental or for someone else). If you are quitting for someone else, then, sorry to be negative, but you could well be setting yourself up for failure. Anyway, I am going on a bit here. I just have been where you are, and when I finally hit my bottom, I quit drinking because I knew that I would likely be dead in very short time if I didn't. So, I guess my only advice to you is try not to be so obsessed about not drinking and when you do drink, try not to obsess about how you shouldn't have drank.
You will quit when it is really, really important to you, I think.
Take good care.
Tamara
> Okay - I'm still doing better than before, much, much, better. But - BUT!! - I did have a few with a neighbour last night...and didn't stop after the one I told myself I would...so I'm a little worried my resolve may be slipping. Tonight we're out for dinner and I'm worried I'll drink again, then that will be two nights in a row and that isn't good for me...I need to strengthen my resolve. Any bright ideas???
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