Posted by tanner257 on December 23, 2004, at 20:10:16
I'm watching my alcoholic son self-destruct and I don't know where else to turn; maybe someone here can at least give me some insight or perspective. My 30-year old son has been an alcoholic since adolescence. He's been in several inpatient rehabs, and is clean for a few weeks, then goes back to drinking. His 7-year marriage fell apart last summer, and that seemed to be the only thing that kept him functional. He is really floundering now: he's marginally employed, is always broke, has no car, and just lost his third apartment since May. Yesterday his attorney called us and told us he showed up in court smelling like a brewery and that he wold no longer represent him (we've been paying for his divorce lawyer). We have tried to give him financial and emotional support, have paid for therapy, tried to get him to AA meetings, have attended al-anon meetings (not really too helpful for me) and don't know what else to do. I am heartsick. I can't continue to support him financially but I don't know if I have the stomach to point him to a homeless shelter in the winter. I am torn between my need to rescue and fix him and my anger and resentment at not being able to. I know: classic codependency.
Is there anything anyone can offer? Thanks.
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