Posted by antigua3 on July 24, 2011, at 12:31:53
In reply to Re: Motherly Therapist and Detached Daddy Psychiatrist, posted by lucielu2 on July 18, 2011, at 8:09:37
Hi Lucie,
Yes, this whole college thing can be such a roller coaster ride. My first one went off (a boy) and we didn't have much day-to-day contact. What we did have was an agreement that he would call when he really had time to talk--like for an hour, really--and with the little snippets of texts or contact with his father, we heard from him regularly and then once every two weeks or less we would have a really great conversation, covering everything. That seemed to work with us. Now that he is out of college, and surprisingly moved back here (which I never expected, but it's probably only for another year), he calls me and gives me a hard time about not being in touch enough! It's a funny change of events.With my daughter going off, I know there will be much more frequent contact, but I don't see heart to heart phone calls. We just don't operate that way. But she will be home so much more often than her brother, so it's a tradeoff. I am overwhelmed with sadness at the thought of her going and I have really been caught off guard by that. I'm literally counting down the days with her and yesterday I started crying just thinking about her being gone. She is such a force of nature in this house, with all of her friends coming and going, loudly, I might add, and it will be so quiet without her. I still have a very quiet younger son who will be at home, but like I said, we keep redefining our family. I've decided that's ok because we all know we are a unit and we still find time to be together as such and our hearts expand as new people are brought in--my son's girlfriend, for example. We just welcome her because she is so important to my son. (that's a whole other conversation to have...)
Thank you for the med suggestion about my T. I think I will try to call her and see her, just for comfort's sake. She really has been so wonderful to me, and I see her work everyday in the well-adjusted, happy kids I have. I could never have done it without her. Do they give out a "T of the Year" award? If so, she's nominated... Anyone else? Daisy's T is a given and may have a lock on it.
take care,
antigua
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