Posted by emmanuel98 on October 29, 2010, at 21:10:35
In reply to Re: Perfectionism, posted by wittgensteinz on October 28, 2010, at 10:54:22
I am studying nursing, quite a change from working as an academic. I felt I needed to do something really different that required humility, tolerance, was social and involved warm and genuine human interaction. I spent last year taking all the science pre-reqs (there are a lot of them) and even then I was grade-obsessed, working like a fiend to get all A's.
My T has helped me with my feeling of complete social ineptness and never having had a close friend all my life, except for my husband and daughter (which aren't, of course, quite the same as friendship). I started going to 12-step meetings (had had problems with drugs and alcohol) and was meeting people. My T, who has a lot of friend, both old and new, talked all this over with me, talked about friendship and what it entailed, gave me tips, encouraged me to do some things and discouraged me from others. I still tend to get alienated in parties and after meetings, when people form small groups and start talking. I am afraid to break into one of these groups for fear people won't like me doing that. I don't easily interact with people in these situations. But I've gotten good at being with one or two or three people at a time, which I could never do before. My T and I talked about this a lot.
Now I only see my p-doc (also my T) once a month, but I see a DBT therapist weekly to keep working on this and other stuff.
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