Posted by emmanuel98 on July 3, 2010, at 20:22:02
In reply to Re: 'You're Harmful!' » Verloren, posted by violette on July 3, 2010, at 18:26:19
I'm glad you and Ada are working through this. That is the whole point of therapy. Maybe what people reacted negatively to is your saying "you're harmful" rather than using what CBT therapists call "I" statements. I find that harmful. This feels harmful to me. I have learned to do this a lot with my husband and daughter and friends, as well as with my therapist. I say things like: I feel badgered by you. I'm afriad you're angry with me. I get defensive when you state things that way. It's helped me a lot.
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