Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2010, at 14:46:28
In reply to Core Issues, posted by Daisym on July 1, 2010, at 23:23:21
I was planning to ask my therapist today, but we never got away from talking about being a grownup.
Although my fear of growing up may be a core issue. I have very complex feelings about growing up, and what it means to be a woman, and all sorts of issues around that from sex to responsibility. I use the terms in such a way that even I can't describe exactly what I mean by them, and it's layered with all kinds of stuff that even now we haven't waded through because I just can't verbalize it.
Definitely my issues around feeling like I need to be a good girl, and feeling that anything bad that happens comes from not being "good" or doing enough. Lots of magical thinking in that area of my life. I think I'd say that may be my very biggest core issue.
I think he'd say that I have poor self esteem. I strongly disagree. I think we may have settled on the issue that I have strong feelings of inferiority about certain aspects of myself. I'm not sure though. He keeps trotting out the poor self esteem as if it were a global issue.
Oh, and maybe a very low tolerance for emotional pain unfortunately coupled with a very reactive nervous system. :) I spend way too much energy avoiding pain, and end up causing myself more pain.
I'll have to ask him. I found it fascinating when I asked him to describe me in ten words. Perhaps looking back at that list might give me a clue.
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