Posted by widget on June 28, 2010, at 13:29:52
In reply to Re: I still love my therapist » widget, posted by violette on June 28, 2010, at 10:55:01
Hi, I just wrote a long message and didn't send it! Let's see. First of all, no amount of training would be really helpful in dealing with these "unplanned" feelings.
I believe my therapist said I was his favorite patient in response to my incredible sadness at what he had said before his vacation. He said this when he returned and learned how it had affected me.
He has told me straight out he has no counter transference feelings toward me. He has also said he does not have "romantic" feelings for me. He wants the same for me as he would for his daughter. To be self-confident, happy with who I am, etc.
He goes strictly by the rules. Therefore, he said he could not say "I love you" but could say "You are lovable." He shrugged his shoulders and said something about the crazy rules of his profession.
One other thing that was odd. Once, when this was being discussed, he got quite angry that his office remain "safe", a "safe place". I assume he meant not acting out on my feelings. He almost never, never gets angry. Curious. I wondered about it at the time. Ha, maybe he was just frustrated with me!
I am convinced he does not have romantic feelings for me and would never, never act on them even if they were there. That's all. Widget
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