Posted by deerock on April 22, 2010, at 20:28:23
In reply to Re: Intelligence and bonding in childhood abuse cases » BabyToes, posted by sassyfrancesca on April 22, 2010, at 15:14:59
i dont think the helping witness has to be an adult.
i had a lot of childhood friends who were really great and were really close to me. my parents were animals. i think that i had the respect of my pals made me feel worth while. i also knew enough to recognize that my mother was a beast sometimes. so i called her every name in the book.i also wonder though, when you describe, anyone on this list for that matter, being abused as a kid, was it all abuse, all the time? for me, my parents were brutal and violent and neglectful but they were also very loving at times.
so maybe for me the occasional love was enough to help me to function at a somewhat normal level.
if it was all abuse all the time im sure id still be hooked on drugs and all kindsa messy stuff. i might even be dead. but somehow, there is a spark to fight, to know that the pain isnt all their is and that something better can come about.i never had an adult or a teacher take me under their wing. all my teachers thought i was an animal. but all the kids loved me. i had tons of friends. that pulled me through i think.
also, in terms of turning to drugs, i think addiction is a bad scene but i think if i didnt become addicted, id be worse off. i think my addiction was a huge outlet. sure it got a little outta hand and caused some problems but without it, i dont think i would have had anywhere to turn when the heat was real high at home. but who knows. maybe if i didnt get wacked outta my head everday through college i'da been a scholar of some kind.
the rock
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