Posted by widget on April 7, 2010, at 10:45:58
In reply to Re: Dilemma in Therapy, posted by widget on April 5, 2010, at 7:10:54
Dear Daisym, I am somewhat confused about my session with therapist on Monday. He began by talking about my issues with safety and, basically, showed me what had been missing in my childhood that makes safety such a huge issue. I certainly agreed with him. I asked him if this was the cause of my feelings for him and he said that he did not want to invalidate my feelings.
ok. But, then, toward the end of the session, he said that I did not know him well enough to love him. That I only knew him in therapy. He said real love means embracing every aspect of the other person. This confuses me as he had previously said he would not invalidate my feelings but it sure felt like it. I was speechless.
It wasn't until that evening that I got extremely angry with him. I do feel invalidated. I have always felt he was very respectful of what I say and this statement he made felt like the ultimate trump card on his part. After all, he is correct; I don't know the everyday him. Therefore, my feelings are invalid? I see him tomorrow and don't know how to talk to him about this. It will definitely affect the therapy. And, it makes me see him as high-handed, judgemental, and arrogant! Do you have any advice? Thanks! Widget
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