Posted by BabyToes on April 6, 2010, at 23:07:10
In reply to Re: please rephrase that- baby toes, posted by rnny on April 6, 2010, at 22:43:54
I guess that is why I hate cognitive therapy so much, it feels so controlling to me. My first T was trained in cognitive therapy mostly, not CBT but cognitive. He concentrated on how I said something more than what it was that I was feeling. Kinda like a grade school teacher teaching correct grammar. That is fine as long as the T HEARS what you were feeling and not just concentrate on how it was expressed after it is corrected. I humored him and said things the way he wanted me to, but it didn't change the way I felt and the way I felt totally got ignored.
To me it puts up a barrier with people because my old T wasn't attuned with me as a feeling human, but as a dog he could train to do tricks his way.
You are right, this is Dr. Bob's site and he can do and control whatever and whomever that wants to be a member and make them say things in a certain way. But I just don't understand all the rules and haven't for a long time. It is easy for someone to tell someone to rephrase something, but if that person doesn't understand or don't have the cognitive ability to understand because of a learning disability or mental disability, I don't see blocking them as a punishment is going to help them or the community as a whole.
Maybe teaching others not to take everything so personal would be more helpful because no matter what someone posts and the way the do it, there will always be someone who can feel hurt, even if things are said in the "babble way."
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