Posted by Dinah on March 18, 2010, at 9:42:09
In reply to think I'm having an anniversary moment...., posted by floatingbridge on March 17, 2010, at 11:22:08
That fairytale should be put out of its misery. If some women get it, that's wonderful for them, but a good portion of women don't and mother and baby are just fine. For most of history the maternal death rate was staggering. If you're just asleep for a while after a C section, and the baby is well cared for, there'll be plenty of other chances for bonding - not to mention all those prenatal chances for bonding.
Strong loving mother comes from all those countless moments while they are growing up.
A lot of trauma and guilt is caused by those myths. :(
And I don't think my viewpoint is affected by responding very badly to the anesthetic and having them put me under completely as soon as it was safe for the baby.
I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Your doc is right about heroes. Maybe now that you're aware of your associations you might be able to lessen the annual feelings?
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