Posted by Dinah on January 26, 2010, at 21:37:37
In reply to Re: I had the egg thrown at me » Dinah, posted by Verloren on January 26, 2010, at 21:15:04
I'd do the personal shield activity. I might complain about having to draw it, but I'd do it if he wanted me to.
What I object to is clumping all my traumas into an egg. I don't like the drawing part, but I think I would mind listing them too. Some of them may still be painful, many have lost their sting. But all of them are part of who I am. And to make them into a list, or a bunch of pictures in an egg, is to minimize and disrespect the experience, for me. I understand that others don't feel that way. I don't mind discussing one or all of them with my therapist. And if he wants to write them down and find patterns in them, that's fine with me. If he wanted to talk over my life with an eye to traumas, I'd be fine with that too.
The very thing that one of the persons in those links talked about liking about the exercise is the thing I find objectionable. I don't want to turn my tigers into housecats. I want to respect them as tigers. Even if I learn to live with them, and gain perspective with them, and talk about them until they lose their shame. It might help some people to reduce them to a few penstrokes and stick them in an egg. But it won't help me. It would just make me angry.
In the words of Captain James T. Kirk...
James T. Kirk: Damn it Bones, you're a doctor. You know that pain and guilt can't be taken away with the wave of a magic wand. They're the things we carry with us, the things that make us who we are. If we lose them, we lose ourselves.
poster:Dinah
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