Posted by ebo4ny on January 23, 2010, at 16:01:59
I've been seeing my therapist for a little less than half a year. We had very good chemistry in session and I felt that he was very empathetic and I was starting to trust him. Sometimes I felt that he seemed attracted to me, but I assumed that it was a projection coming from my history with men. He seemed to not be doing or saying anything unproffessional. It was just a feeling, based my reading of body language and expressions.
He shares a lot of information about his personal life. I know a lot about his dating history his divorce certain aspects of his childhood etc.
About three months in I had a very unsettling dream about my father and as soon as I woke up I knew it was really about my therapist. I told my therapist about the dream at which point he informed me that I had a crush on him.
The situation was very shame inducing. It was around that time that he started ragging on my clothes. It seemed like no matter what I wore, he had something to say about it(ie "Well you're looking like you put quite a bit of thought into your clothes today. Did you have somewhere else you were going after therapy?"). So I started wearing baggy jeans and turtle necks and he still had something to say. I tried talking to him about how this made me feel and he said "My feelings toward my patients are dispassionate, Kimmy" even though I wasn't even talking about his feelings. I was trying to tell him that I felt he was accusing me of being seductive when i was trying not to be and it hurt my feelings and this is his response? He wont let me talk about any of this directly and I feel frustrated as hell, what should I do?
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