Posted by Verloren on December 28, 2009, at 22:42:54
In reply to T said I hurt her feelings!, posted by rnny on December 28, 2009, at 16:35:53
I think she wasnt broken up about it and really did view it as an opportunity to use in your therapy. Her saying that it did hurt her feelings shows that she is willing to be honest with you about her feelings and I think that could help cultivate trust in your relationship.
I have had similar experiences but am still working through how to view people without my negative lenses on. I tend to internalize it though, saying things in my head like, well no sh** Sherlock or Shocking! And it only took you how long to figure that out?
Your feeling sad about it now means you feel compassion about the way your words are received. I agree with annierose that this is a teachable moment. So I think you two can have some very good discussions about this.
-Verloren
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