Posted by Verloren on December 19, 2009, at 17:39:13
In reply to Ever jealous of T?, posted by rnny on December 16, 2009, at 16:12:53
Your post really touched home with me. Your T sounds a lot like mine. Mine always wears skirts, has beautiful sexy legs, and is very thin and petite. She also crosses her legs and often shifts so I'm always turning my attention to them. She also has pretty features especially her eyes.
I am a very obese female and her and I are like night and day physically.
However, it was those things that attracted me to her and I developed transference feelings for her instead of resentment. Not sure how that happened!My old T was a larger woman who I originally thought I would relate better with but it turns out I ended up resenting the advice she gave me because it was physically obvious she couldn't follow her own advice so how could she help me when she had struggles?
Also, I think Ts want to look good and professional for their patients.
A. Good looking people are usually easier for others to talk to because we're more inclined to want to be near them and accepted into their circles.
B. A professionally dressed T automatically appears more intellectual than one in say, jeans and wrinkled shirts.With my T, I finally asked her why she shifted in her seat. I asked if I was making her uncomfortable. (the legs were really becoming a distraction for me) She admitted that she's very active and when sitting for long periods of time she needs to shift once in a while. I never thought of that I guess.
As far as trusting her goes, you will have to listen to your own feelings about that. It can be hard to trust someone who you feel can't understand you. I wonder if you might consider viewing her as a mentor until you can trust her. That way she's not someone you are jealous of rather someone you look up to who can help you work toward whatever goals you would like to reach.
I hope I help...
-Verloren
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