Posted by lingonberry on December 15, 2009, at 9:09:47
In reply to Re: T acts clinical, posted by southernsky on December 15, 2009, at 0:06:34
> I wonder why this never seemed to be an issue with my T and me? I call him Dr. T and he refers to himself as Dr. T in conversations. Its seems natural and I feel affectionate referring to him that way. Never thought about calling him by his first name.Does anyone call their T/psychiatrist by their first name, or is it just me who does not? Curious now.
I call my T by his first name, thats what we do in Europe, where I live, after seeing each other a couple of times. Besides, me and my T are almost in the same age and then we always refer to our first name. But I think I wouldnt mind calling him by his last name if he rather would prefer that.
> On the other hand, his mannerisms and our conversations--our relationship-seems equal, seems more genuine than clinical.He portrays himself more of a helping partner, and understanding and nonjudgmental.More like an inspiring friend..with non-friend boundaries.Some psychiatrists in the past i've experienced seemed like their face would crack if they were to smile.
Their face would crack - hahaha, hilarious! That kind of analyst is not for me at all. I prefer an analyst trained in object relations theory and Self psychology. It looks like we have the same type of T, and the same type of relationships too. My T is also very friendly, very relaxed and has a great sense of humour and we laugh a lot together. I really like him. But, as you mentioned, we have those necessarily non-friendly boundaries. I dont want him to be my friend; I want him to be my T in the end, thats what Im paying him for.
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