Posted by deerock on December 11, 2009, at 9:59:58
In reply to Re: erotic transference, posted by Helana on December 11, 2009, at 9:50:04
Helana, how did you get from the T flirting to your T not flirting? Maybe things can work with my T if she becomes aware of what the problem is.
This is exactly what mine does. She flirts and then suddenly gets clinical. And I become confused. And other times she admits flirting and other times denies it. It is confusing.
The issue is that my T left her facebook page open to the public by accident. So I knew all these things about her and what was important to her, etc. I know she loves and adores her dog because of what was on her facebook page. My fantasy of violence involved her dog and when I told her, she started crying. And the next session I came in and she was all like oh, we may need to stop, something bad is happening here.
I do not want to harm her at all for the record and I never would and never have physically harmed another person.
I'm hanging in there. I made a couple calls for a consult. I was really confused after todays session. She acted like she felt unsafe and that something destructive was happening and then talked about a consult and said I may need to find another therapist. Then towards the ened she said "are you coming in on Monday??" And I said "oh my god, you are just as insane as my mother." She got up and opened the door without saying anything as in, ok, time for you to leave.
I thought she was telling me she couldnt work with me and then told me we could keep talking about it and asked if I wanted to come in Monday. I was like huh??? I know its not her. Its me too and maybe more me than her or maybe not. But the whole thing is getting wild and crazy.
Thanks again Helana. I feel appreciate that you are here and that you are you.
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