Posted by Dinah on August 23, 2009, at 10:20:46
In reply to Re: Feeling kind of blue (**csa trigger) » rskontos, posted by antigua3 on August 22, 2009, at 9:54:52
> But it's so difficult for me to ask for help. I'm at that place where I recognize that I have to do this alone. While my T and pdoc can help, at the end of the day, at the end of my life, I am alone.
In my opinion this is both completely true, yet not complete. It's one of those dialectics, I think.
On the one hand, it is our lives, and it is up to us to do those things that we need to do. In ourselves, we are alone.
But we're a communal species. We may be born alone in the sense that the connection between our mothers and ourselves are broken, and we're alone within our own skins. But we're also (hopefully) surrounded by people who love us and are connected in a less concrete, but still very real, way. We may die alone, in that each of us will be alone in our skins with our pain and our experiences. But (hopefully) we'll also be surrounded by others who are connected in a less concrete way.
You are alone, yes. You do need to find some way within yourself to do the things you need to do, and to survive and tolerate the things you feel and experience.
You are not alone. The many connections in your life, including those with your therapist and pdoc, can sustain and support you in your efforts.
By fully embracing the truth of your aloneness, maybe you can also embrace the truth of your lack of aloneness?
Just my two cents.
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