Posted by Weekends on August 13, 2009, at 5:29:46
In reply to Re: Do you know your therapist's birthday??, posted by sunnydays on August 7, 2009, at 23:05:17
Hello, this seems like boundary issues. I have created a great deal of pain and chaos for myself when I shared a small in- expensive book with my therapist. It wasn't related to a holiday or birthday but he declined to accept saying he didn't accept gifts. I suppose it looked like a gift ( though no card or wrapping) but I wanted to try and explain something about what I was feeling by sharing this short book. I ended up feeling like I behaved badly, did something wrong and then was so ashamed I quit for a bit. Ever since, I make it a point never to find out anything my doc so I will never feel the need to extend myself in a social way. Even though I feel he is somewhat strict, I think he is so good and such a respectful professional I cant go through the 'search' for someone new. I will adjust---and knowing nothing about him helps me focus rather than caring too much about what is going on with him. Not sure this helps---but knowing personal information can sometimes lead to heartbreak.
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