Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2009, at 23:40:48
In reply to The Other Side of the Relationship, posted by Daisym on August 7, 2009, at 1:25:33
I really do love your therapist. :)
Mine would never have been vulnerable like that. Of course mine isn't overly given to self reflection...
He is invested in our relationship. Not in the same way I am, because he has to temper his investment with my best interests in mind. He has to maintain a certain detachment. But I think he's that way in general too, so part of it is who he is.
He certainly has emotional reactions to the things I say and do. He's ridiculously transparent most of the time, so it's easy to follow them. He's even disclosed, to a limited extent, ways that I affect him other than the moment to moment ways.
But I think it would scare me if I actually thought I had any real ability to hurt him. He's said I do have that ability. I tend to dismiss that idea for many reasons, but it may be at least in part because I wouldn't feel free to be as open as I need to be in therapy if I thought that I could really hurt him.
Strange, since if I can't really hurt him, then I can't really touch him in any meaningful way either.
poster:Dinah
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