Posted by antigua3 on July 22, 2009, at 20:39:06
In reply to Re: to terminate or keep going » antigua3, posted by deerock on July 22, 2009, at 9:41:46
I have issues with male authority figures and my current pdoc is CBT and pyschoanalytical, plus whatever else works he says. In any case, it's certainly not touchy, feely therapy where I feel his warmth and caring. Everything I learn is painfully wrenched from my experiences with him and I don't often think I have a safety net. That's a false assumption on my part--I think it's probably pure projection.
In any case, given my long-term experience with a psychodynamic therapist, if I had gone with a male in this case, I think I would have developed a more caring, empathetic bond--which would have taken time--and I wouldn't feel so alone in the process. The pace probably would have been slower.
But I think I made the right choice, given the way my pdoc has triggered so much of my early life experience growing up with a stern male authority figure, and we've made tremendous progress--although it has been very painful and quick paced (maybe too fast?), but it has worked for me, it was what I needed at the time. Sometimes I didn't think I would make it, and I've wanted to walk out the door so many times, but I'm glad I kept going back.
But everyone's different.
antigua
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