Posted by seldomseen on July 18, 2009, at 15:41:25
In reply to Re: alright now...I say 'f*ck it' (sub abuse trig), posted by obsidian on July 17, 2009, at 20:56:28
that *does* sound like a dreadful day. Sometimes dealing with people can be such a drag. I learned a long time ago the marked difference between "work friends" and "real friends".
However, one thing I would like you to consider is that you are giving these people (who obviously do not deserve even a second thought from you) a whole lot of influence over you.
Why does it matter so much what they do?
I don't know what I would do in your situation, but (after 8+ years of therapy) I would be tempted to call them on their behaviour and tell them that you would prefer that they stop. Or perhaps, as you say, just ignore that they are there.
Anything other than letting them have the power to decide how and what I feel, much less how I respond to that feeling.
I know it easier said than done. It's a process. In the meantime, I will hate those people right along with you.
Seldom.
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