Posted by olivepit on July 16, 2009, at 23:36:13
In reply to Re: I need to shrink my head » olivepit, posted by Dinah on July 16, 2009, at 10:40:28
> I've always found that fighting thoughts, trying not to have them, just makes them sink in deeper.
>yep! very true!
> Is it possible to shift the unproductive ruminations into more productive ones? If you no longer have control over that situation, can you shift your worrying into planning how you'll react if what you fear happens does happen? Or how you might be able to plan for future similar situations? Or even something vaguely related?
to be honest, probably not... well for now anyway, maybe down the road if I got some help with it. I just can't see myself being able to turn it into something more productive. But if I could I would be incredably successful! lol> Worrying, properly channeled, can be an asset, if not a particularly pleasant one.
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> Also, even if you don't have OCD, you might find some of the OCD techniques helpful. "Brain Lock" and "STOP Obsessing" are the two books I found most helpful.Thanks, Ill check them out.
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> I often find that my worries distract me from my fears. Is it possible that in focusing on things that you can't control, you are actually trying to control fears about things too scary to even think of?might be... Im not sure. I am fairly in tune with myself and generally know if Im doing something to avoid a fear, but you never know. I might be. Im overly intune with other people though, would love to lose some of that.
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