Posted by Sigismund on July 13, 2009, at 15:29:16
In reply to male or female therapist..., posted by deerock on July 13, 2009, at 13:59:31
Back then I saw a woman therapist who was more or less the age of my mother, and in the course of things I became very angry with her. Where does so much anger comes from?
I can also remember an earlier male shrink saying to me
'So you felt like a crumb?'
and though he meant well, I remember recoiling. I knew he sent his son to my (ha!) school which may have had something to do with why I told him I'd like to line the entire school up and shoot the lot of them, though I imagine this is not the sort of thing you say in America.As well there was something about male to male complicity (in what? some kinda racket?) that made me much prefer a woman therapist.
This is going to sound like it's out of 70s feminism, but I tend to feel this feeling of complicity with men.
(Maybe I tend to be anxious about the way men relate to each other? Maybe I was worried about there being any prior presumption that he would understand how I was feeling and that therefore we would be part of something together?)Currently I see a male psych every second week, but he's OK because his opinion of the world (and in particular psychiatry...it's quite fun to hear a shrink say that his colleagues are psychopaths) is more sceptical (if not more jaundiced) than my own.
After a while with a good T, one should lose awareness of the sex of the therapist. It's going to depend on you and the T you find. From what you said I'm unsure as to whether you should move on or try to work it out, as indeed I was unsure in my own case. I wouldn't bother doing therapy now, but then I had 15 years of it, 5 days a week, and (though I make no claims for the effectiveness of therapy) I was largely unsocialised (in any decent way) and it did change me.
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