Posted by Zana on May 3, 2009, at 11:19:11
In reply to grieving and been wanting to call T, posted by sunnydays on May 2, 2009, at 20:51:13
No you shouldn't have to parent yourself. I don't know how your T feels about calls. Can you feel connected to him by reflecting on his warmth and reaponsiveness?
You are supposed to project your feelings onto your therapist and to have transference. If you didn't transfer your feelings onto him there would be no way for the therapy to happen, no way for you to work through your feelings. It's kind of the medium through which the therapy works. But I know it can be hard to have both "real" feelings of warmth and connection and old feelings from childhood. You don't really need to sort them out. Just let him know about all of them and let him respond. Sounds like you trust him to be warm and careful of your feelings. So let yourself be vulnerable. Let him parent you. I think that's what you want and what needs to happen.
Losing sleep is a terrible stressor. Are you on any meds?
I think it would probably be OK to leave a message just saying that you have been feeling overwhelmed and panicked and that you can talk about it when you see him. That might help, just to know that he knows what you are struggling with.
Hope you get some sleep. Don't know what the PTSD us about but that sounds like the source of the kind of unraveled feeling you are having. I assume it's something you are working on with your T.
Take care of yourself.
Zana
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