Posted by SLS on May 1, 2009, at 15:57:55
In reply to Re:What My T Said About Her Behavior, posted by sassyfrancesca on May 1, 2009, at 7:26:19
Hi Sassy.
Earlier today, I wrote a long-winded reply to your post, but decided not to submit it. Fundamentally, I have found myself in similar positions as you now find yourself in. I have had to cut off quite a few relationships that I deemed to be deleterious to my mental health and growth as a human being. It was quite a step forward for me. I now feel a freedom from toxicity that I didn't at first realize was there. No guilt. Just the commitment to a healthier me and a happier life.
You might have much to consider before making any decisions. If it is that important to you to maintain this friendship, then it will be incumbent upon you to accept that your friend will behave in ways that are upsetting to you from time to time. It is your choice and your consequence. People with BPD are often difficult to maintain a stable relationship with. Still, it might be rewarding to continue it.
If you determine that this relationship is hurting you rather than enhancing the quality of your life, what obstacles might there be to ending it?
- Scott
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