Posted by Dinah on April 9, 2009, at 20:33:50
In reply to am I 'splitting?', posted by raisinb on April 9, 2009, at 13:07:02
How did you feel about your pdoc's intervention? Are you offended by her stance? Or sort of happy that another professional will mention the things that she doesn't take seriously when you mention?
I have to admit I'd be like Onceupon. I'd find the statement "sure, it'll be a loss" offputting, and I'd likely be offended at the... vehemence.
But then I'm very contrary about things like that. A statement like that from my pdoc would likely make me grab my therapist around the ankles and never let go.
But there were times when I wished my therapist would intervene for me in another relationship. He never would. He would talk to me about what I should say. But he never would say anything himself.
I'm interested to find out how it went. Keep us up to date?
I'm not enormously fond of those psych terms like splitting. Sometimes I don't even like "transference". I'd think being aware of your feelings about what's going on, without labeling them, would be more helpful. I rarely find simple labels sufficient for the complex layered reactions I have. But even with that being said, I don't see what you did as splitting at all. Your pdoc's reaction was too strong for me to see it that way.
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