Posted by antigua3 on April 8, 2009, at 13:04:46
In reply to update--need some feedback, posted by raisinb on April 7, 2009, at 20:48:47
Maybe I missed it, but why did she bring this up in the first place? Just because she thought it needed saying? Or was there some sort of framework or conversation you two were working with? Was she saying, "Now that I'm back, you need to realize that this is just a therapeutic relationship" and you have to accept that?
Either way, I'm confused. I don't know why she felt it was time to bring it up, so soon after her return. You had already had to deal with her absence and then IMO to be slapped in the face with a reminder that you are just a "patient" didn't seem to be in your best interests.
I agree that she's not all with it yet after having the baby, especially if she sought out consultation so quickly on something that has basically happened on her return. (I think consultation is great, but it just doesn't sit quite right with me, here.)
I'd really want to ask "What was your motivation behind telling me this at this particular time?"
Also, perhaps this has triggered some kid-type thing, as if the mother is telling you that you've been pushed out of the nest because she has a new one to care for, and you have to be a "big girl" and handle it. That's clearly from my own experience, but did you have any younger siblings? If so, how did your mother handle it? I may be way off base, but those are the thoughts that come to mind, especially since she said that you may not have been "ready" to hear it.
please take care,
antigua
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