Posted by lucie lu on March 8, 2009, at 7:25:01
In reply to Re: Anger, individuation, and taking risks (long) » lucie lu, posted by obsidian on March 7, 2009, at 23:28:56
Sid,
I really hate that name, don't you? It sounds more restrictive than it is, too, because ACOA history usually includes other kinds of trauma. But there are certain traits that do seem to be so common among people growing up in a substance-abusing home that the term can be a useful short-hand sometimes to describe certain behaviors. And I often take the lazy person' way out so I don't haved to type so much ;-)
As for the whole hypersensitivity to others' emotions thing, it has always been a problem and has often made me quite paranoid. With this T I've been able to learn some reality testing. And I find that although I really am very good in sensing very subtle things from other people, because of my childhood training, I am not always very accurate in interpreting what it is I'm picking up, ironically because of that same childhood training. Sometimes it drives me crazy to be getting all these subliminal signals from other people and yet not have enough information or clear frame of reference to know what they are really saying. I mean, really, how can we be expected to understand subtler aspects of human relationships when our early ones were so convoluted and confusing? And I do tend to go a bit nuts when what I sense and what is said don't match. But obviously sometimes I am wrong, I add 1 plus 1 and get 57, and I was wrong in a lot of respects about what I assumed my T was feeling in this case. (Although I'll bet I was right about a lot of it too. That was the 1+1 part, I was just wrong about the 57, lol)
Lucie
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