Posted by backseatdriver on February 5, 2009, at 15:31:03
In reply to Re: Testing our relationships with our Ts (long), posted by antigua3 on February 5, 2009, at 12:14:07
Antigua,
I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
My T's line on these sorts of abandonments (and that is what they are) is that if a T abandons you like this in session, it is actually a kind of compliment. I know this sounds awful; it certainly feels awful to me when it happens. Perhaps what your pdoc is saying -- very poorly -- is that you really are not far from where you need to be. That you have sources and strengths that perhaps you don't yet fully appreciate in yourself, but others feel them.
You shouldn't get *dumped* on for having these strengths of course, and this is where I think your pdoc made a big mistake, by abandoning you to deal without helping you out.
Yours,
BSD
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