Posted by Racer on December 13, 2008, at 18:39:27
In reply to Bothersome incident with therapist, posted by luckygal on December 13, 2008, at 11:57:28
This actually made me laugh, and I hope you come to be able to join me in that!
That therapist seems to me to be abdicating responsibility for her own behavior, blaming others for her shortcomings, apparently feels entitled to special treatment, has higher standards for others than for herself, and she wants to work with you for expecting simple, basic respect?
I'm laughing because that's absolutely incredible to me. I wish I could match that level of self-infatuation!
See, if you walked into my therapist's office and told her that you always ran late, but expected full time anyway, she'd work with you on setting reasonable expectations -- and she'd still send you packing at ten minutes to the hour.
Yes, there are times when it is necessary for a session to run over -- although the only legitimate cause I can think of that would lead to running 20 minutes late is if the client is actively suicidal and you're waiting for an ambulance or the police. Generally, though, part of maintaining appropriate boundaries within the therapeutic relationship is starting and ending sessions at the scheduled time. Period.
Sure, I'm a bit rigid and inflexible -- but in this case, I'm also right. (And I would so like to meet your therapist! She'd make a great case study for school!)
I'm sorry this happened to you. Good luck with a better therapist.
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