Posted by Nadezda on December 12, 2008, at 12:12:28
In reply to Re: so my therapist offers me a hug and I say... » rskontos, posted by raisinb on December 12, 2008, at 11:42:54
Raisinb, you made me laugh! what a reaction! I can see why your T laughed. in a way I would be flattered that you were so honest-- and your response wasn't hostile, at all-- but put, in no uncertain terms, at the same time!
I expect she'll understand, and probably be quite interested in what led you to feel uncomfortable hugging her. It was definitely a question-- and she may herself have had some uncertainty if it was a good idea. it's great that you could tell her exactly how you felt-- much better than biting your tongue and hugging her if you weren't ready.
And you're right-- her being pregnant is a huge issue. Not to be overlooked, so to speak.
So while it was a bit, oh, foot-in-mouthish, it was really quite a real response-- and in that sense, absolutely what you should have said. Perhaps in the best of all possible worlds, you would have reframed it, and been very tactful-- but .... well...we're not in that world, where most of us would say everything quite differently-- or never get around to saying anything.
How do you feel about it, after having had a day to think?
Nadezda
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