Posted by Daisym on November 30, 2008, at 17:46:49
In reply to Re: Family -- and Defending Boundaries, posted by seldomseen on November 30, 2008, at 7:09:49
Racer - I'll echo everyone else - I'm proud of you. I'm sure it wasn't easy.
For myself - Thanksgiving was sort of a chaotic nightmare in which I watched one of my children get drunk - first time I've seen that (he is 23) -- my brother not talk to anyone and my mother seemed just plain angry the whole day. So I took a deep breath and after three days of having conversations in my head with her, I called and said "are you upset with me and if so why?" She never really answered, she talked about her own feelings and how hard the holidays are for her - but I grew clear (again) about how it is all about her. I cried during the conversation but she didn't seem to know what to do with that. But still - *I* called, instead of just worrying about it. And that is new and huge step.
Now of course, I'm working on getting through the next big trauma. How can they put these things so close together!?
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